When they don't do as there told (autism related)

When your Autie does not do as there, what do you do? My daughter is 11 and won't do as she's told. I just told her to put laundry in the wash. She took the clothes to the laundry, then came back, and told me she put them in the wash. Well when I went to start it, the clothes were all over the floor. So I tried to correct her, and she got mad and gave me an attitude. So I told her the attitude was not nice, sent her to her bedroom. She normally is very good, and well behaved. But lately, she's been defiant, giving massive attitude, and sometimes just glat out ignores me. I do punish her sending her to her room, and I take away her things, and I've even grounded her, and it changes nothing. She will apologize right away, but then goes right back to not listening. Am I doing something wrong? Is this part of the autism?

Idk much about Autism but that pretty much sounds like a normal 11 year old.

it sounds more like regular child behavor sometimes its just a phase. My daughter has autism and some days she could careless what I ask her to help with she wouldn't do it, until I told her its not nice to make me do everything. Part of her autism is that she ends up doing it even if she doesn't want to and she still gets mad and complains it just takes longer. Then other days she is prefectly fine and loves to help.

<blockquote><b>Quoting March 2013:</b>" it sounds more like regular child behavor sometimes its just a phase. My daughter has autism and some ... [snip!] ... want to and she still gets mad and complains it just takes longer. Then other days she is prefectly fine and loves to help."</blockquote>


She does that too.

Congrats, you have an almost teen on your hands!   Sounds like she is a little girl coming into puberty which will impact her attitude autism or not. My brother has Aspergers and when he hit puberty the attitude and stuff hit just like any other kid. I can't really give any suggestion on how to help though, my brother just had things taken away that he liked and it worked but Aspergers is a little different than other forms of Autism.

Does she usually put the laundry in the washer? If so then Id say regular behavor that she didn't want to, but if for some reason she had gotten confused about how to do it or exactly where then that could be autism. Its just getting her to understand that when mommy askes her to do something it shouldn't be done just part of the way, for my daughter I ask her to do it and if she only does half I'l sit or be by her until she does it and then if she has made a big fuss il tell her to go to her room, if she has done it without complaining (too much) then il just tell her that sometimes you have to do it even if you don't want to but now that the job is done you can go play, kind of thing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting March 2013:</b>" Does she usually put the laundry in the washer? If so then Id say regular behavor that she didn't want ... [snip!] ... her that sometimes you have to do it even if you don't want to but now that the job is done you can go play, kind of thing."</blockquote>


Yes she knows how to do it. She even knows how to take it in and out of the dryer

Quoting ~Boo's Mom~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting March 2013:</b>" Does she usually put the laundry in the washer? ... [snip!] ... go play, kind of thing."</blockquote> Yes she knows how to do it. She even knows how to take it in and out of the dryer"

well if your other disappline methods aren't working if you haven't tried it yet try having her come back in with you and finishing it, she how she reacts and go from there.

<blockquote><b>Quoting March 2013:</b>" well if your other disappline methods aren't working if you haven't tried it yet try having her come back in with you and finishing it, she how she reacts and go from there."</blockquote>



It's not just that, she's got a massive attitude

it will either pass or it will get worse, unfortunately for her age group in general its just the way it goes. be as firm as you can with her and try to always tell her why you have her do what you do..Ive noticed that understand has helped with my oldest. Good Luck.