re: taking time for EACH child?

i think it's a great idea, to bond with each child individually.
i guess it's up to the individual family how often / how to do this.
i have twin babies, we're definitely planning on having individual days with each of them
I've taken them out one at a time a few times, but not too much, yet.

This is what my husband's mother used to do.

She has 7 children.

I think it's a no-brainer, children need attention and a connection with their parents.

My parents did it with us. But the way we did it was once a week. And we would alternate like this...
One Thursday I would go out with my mom and my sister with my dad, the next Thursday we would switch. We did things every Tuesday all together (movies, dinner, ice skating)
I felt my childhood was absolutely awesome and all my friends were jealous that I got time alone with my rents. Especially my dad, on our "dates" he would take me to get my nails done or play dress up, we played pretty pretty princess. Stuff like that. Most of my friends only got time with their dads here and there and they would always be doing boy stuff like fishing, or going to work with them.

I think that is a great idea! I was an only child, I'm having a hard time thinking about how to split my time among the kids..

Quoting ♥ inês:" So the other day I saw in a blog a mom talking about how important it is to give time to each child. ... [snip!] ... it is good and it increases bonding between mom and a child..? Or do you think it's wrong in some way? Please explain  "

how would it be wrong?I think it's fantastic. I always made time for each child before I got divorced. with 4kids, and only having them 50percent, I just can't anymore. it's the biggest change, and what they'd tell you they missed the most. but, I cannot afford to hire a sitter for 3kids constantly to spend alone time with one.

I think it is awesome. We are having number 6 and we make time for each. My time with my girls is when I am doing their hair and my husband's time with the boys is when he is getting their hair cut or giving a hair cut. We do cuddle time with movies and we let them know at anytime if they need to talk to one of us alone we are are all ears. They do from time to time pull us aside and go over their issues. It is great to establish and have that bond. I wish I could do more time. We also have family date night, the kids love it.

Quoting Veronica m6:" I think it is awesome. We are having number 6 and we make time for each. My time with my girls is when ... [snip!] ... It is great to establish and have that bond. I wish I could do more time. We also have family date night, the kids love it."

OT: I've always wanted 6 kids.

cannot handle 6 pregnancies though!

Yeah I don't know either but I had this discussion today with a friend and she thinks it could be bad for the whole family union. No idea. I do actually agree with this and would do it myself  

Quoting snglemama:" how would it be wrong?I think it's fantastic. I always made time for each child before I got divorced. ... [snip!] ... they'd tell you they missed the most. but, I cannot afford to hire a sitter for 3kids constantly to spend alone time with one. "

We have a 5bdrm house. We have the nursery, master, boy, and girl room. Then the final room we made a play room. When I do one of my girls hair ,i send the other children to the play room. I put on a movie and I do her hair. We laugh, talk, eat a special snack and have great bonding time. It doesn't cost a thing nor do i need a sitter to pull it off. i do the same for the boys except i don't do their hair. lol

I think it's a wonderful idea. I also think it's important for kids to spend time with each parent separate from the other. Since I'm a SAHM and my husband works a LOT, on weekends he will take her out alone, which gives me some much needed "me time" and they get to spend some quality time together. Sometimes he takes her just to the grocery store or bank, the park, sometimes he takes her shopping and let's her pick out a new outfit or shoes, and sometimes he takes her to his friend's house (they love her) and they shower her with gifts and she gets a lot of attention.

I think it's cool; however, my weeks are so hectic and spontaneous that that particular set up wouldn't work for me. I take a few minutes, as much as possible out of every day, to give all my attention and energy to each child seperately.

Quoting Veronica m6:" We have a 5bdrm house. We have the nursery, master, boy, and girl room. Then the final room we made ... [snip!] ... It doesn't cost a thing nor do i need a sitter to pull it off. i do the same for the boys except i don't do their hair. lol"

it's just not a reality for me. I only have them 50% of the time. When I get them.. they miss me. I'm very close with my kids. Before the divorce, dad hardly bothred with them..suddenly they're gone half their lives. I just can't send any of them away when they want to be around me kwim?

Quoting snglemama:" it's just not a reality for me. I only have them 50% of the time. When I get them.. they miss me. I'm ... [snip!] ... with them..suddenly they're gone half their lives. I just can't send any of them away when they want to be around me kwim? "

I can understand that.

Quoting Veronica m6:" I can understand that."

it sucks that he's such a dick. I even asked if we could do nights where He gets the boys, I get the girls and trade off the next week.. so we can do something more specific with them. NOPE.. he won't do anything that makes life easier for me, even if it's good for the kids.

meanwhile.. he just drops them off at his parents!

Quoting snglemama:" it sucks that he's such a dick. I even asked if we could do nights where He gets the boys, I get ... [snip!] ... do anything that makes life easier for me, even if it's good for the kids. meanwhile.. he just drops them off at his parents!"

I would take him back to court and request he only get them on the weekends during the summer and None during the school year, if he is doing crap like that.