Single Teen Mom

I'm new to this pregnancy thing, i'm 17 years old, and 2 and a half months pregnant. I'm of course scared to be having a kid, most teens would be. But the father left, me and my boyfriend at the time were together for 9 months and i got pregnant, but we broke up before i even thought i was pregnant, but i got kind of suspicious of being pregnant, my period wasn't on time but i thought "oh maybe it's just late" . But then it just never came. I told Jonathan i thought i was pregnant, and i really wanted to try and work things out and not get back together, but if we did i would be okay with it. He agreed, said he would clean up his act, we could work things out and at least be friends. So me and my best friend took a test, and i had told Jonathan that, he said to just tell him what happens when i find out. I called him and called him but his phone was off or something, i dont know, but he finally texted back and apologized for not answering because he was "busy" and his reasons for being busy is smoking weed or playing xbox.   but i kinda brushed it off, it was whatever, i showed him a picture of the test and it was positive. He told me he wasn't going to leave, because whoever does that is a scum bag, and no one should get their girlfriend pregnant and leave. And the next day, we hung out, and we got back together. He told me was excited to be having a baby, but nervous and scared. From there i knew something would happen, so i just told him if he starts to freak out or anything to just talk to me about it, because i'm nervous to, but if we have each other i feel like we will overcome it. The next day he told me he didn't want to have a kid, he thinks i should put it up for adoption. I told him i'd think about it but it probably wont happen. We got in to a fight later that night about something completely different, and he broke up with me, called me a sm*rf, told me to smurf myself, ect. The next day i apologized, he told me to smurf off, because i'm a stupid whore. and he has barely spoke to me sense. I don't know what to do. I want to raise this kid with jon, i have seen him around kids, he has played with my nephews and they love him, he's good with his baby sister and i'd really love for him to be in his kids life. Even if we aren't dating, i want him to talk to me, and be there, we can get joint custody if he wants. By the time the baby comes, i should be able to get an apartment, or at least not have to live in my parents house for very long after the baby is born. And jonathan will be very welcomed at that house even if he doesn't deserve to see his kid from what some people tell me. But i need help, if anyone can help me, give me advice, that would be perfect. Thank you for reading.

Just because he broke up with you doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to be in his child's life.

maybe he will come back around? idk ya never know my friend go pregnant at like 22 and the dude left her but then came back, and now they are married and TTC their 4th baby! lol
all I have to say, is if he doesnt want to be there, you cant force it. Try to go on and live your life and prepare for the abby and just work on getting YOURSELF ready for baby. good luck

Have you been to the doctor? Two and half month is not a dry accurate account of how far along you are. I'm guessing 10-11 weeks.
It's your body an your choice but abortion or adoption should be your leading options right now.

Why does it say "Account Removed"?

Quoting Just.Hannah.:" Why does it say "Account Removed"?"

It's just BG being strange....it's done it for the last couple of weeks.

Quoting Just.Hannah.:" Why does it say "Account Removed"?"

IDK. But if it's the same person, she just posted a little bit ago that she might be in labor?

I'm confused.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" It's just BG being strange....it's done it for the last couple of weeks."

Ahh, I see. Thank you.

When I got pregnant it was the same situatiuon. Well, I wasn't a teenager, but we were young. I was 20 and he was 19. We had recently broken up, then I found out I was pregnant. At first he was supportive, then he started trying to force me into an abortion and threatening to go marry his ex and leave me all alone and stuff. I went through most of my pregnancy alone and he was a stupid jerk. Now I'm not saying every guy will do this, but the SECOND our son was born a switch flipped inside of him and he became a different person. He was a fantastic dad from day 1. We were able to co-parent peacefully even while we each briefly dated other people. When our son was around 18 months we got back together and have been in a stable loving relationship ever since (he's 4 1/2 now). We've been married almost 2 years now.

My mom said this to me, and I think it has a lot of truth in it. A woman becomes a mother when she finds out she's pregnant because the baby is a part of her body. A man becomes a father when the baby is born because before he can see it he considers it abstract and it's not real to him. May not apply in every situation, but I think it fit for us.

Good luck!

Just calm down and know that stressing isn't going to help the situation. You can't make him be around and you WILL do just fine without him. How do both of your parents feel about the baby?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just.Hannah.:</b>" Why does it say "Account Removed"?"</blockquote>




Its a glitch. A lot of the new accounts are saying that

i dont know why it says Account Removed, i was trying to figure that out also.
yes i have been to the doctors, and i have a doctors appointment on january third. i could never have an abortion, 101% against it, its just not right.
im hoping he comes back around, and i dont think i should forbid him from seeing his kid, its his too. all my friends tell me to make him suffer so he cant see his kid, id never do that unless he physically hurt me or the baby, which i know he would never do.

Quoting Chuck Bass:" When I got pregnant it was the same situatiuon. Well, I wasn't a teenager, but we were young. I was 20 ... [snip!] ... it he considers it abstract and it's not real to him. May not apply in every situation, but I think it fit for us. Good luck!"

My BD left me when I found out I was pregnant and refused to abort. We aren't young (29-35) but he refused to have anything to do with me. He showed up while I was in labor and has very much been apart of our daughters life since then.

Its sad and unfortunate, but alot of teen mom's end up single parenting for a time. Most teen guys just arent mature enough to handle it right away. My advice is dont let anyone talk you into anything you dont wanna do (keeping baby, abortion, or adoption). It has to be 100% your choice. Also please research every decision you make when it comes to your pregnancy, and your parenting choices. This site is a great place for help, and advice, but dont take it personal if you get a bitchy reply here and there, because there are alot of hormones flying around lol, and of course just like everywhere else you run into bitches from time to time. Most of the women on here are awesome though, and very supportive.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Just because he broke up with you doesn't mean he doesn't deserve to be in his child's life."

She didn't say that.....she was talking about how it would be fine if he didn't get back with her just as long as he was in the child's life is all that mattered.