A topic about SEX!

This may end up being a little complicated to understand, if so, I apologize.

Take a woman that naturally is hard to please sexually. By that, I mean the sex is very good to her, just it's hard for her to cum. Do men like the challenge? Or, is it kinda a turn off to him?

What do you think? What does your man think?

It makes my husband feel like a failure.

Most men don't like the challenge. Seriously, how many unselfish men do you know when it comes to sex? haha

I think its stupid and cocky to think of it as a challenge. I think thy should just concentrate on pleasing their partner and not to prove themselves. I personally don't O during sex and its smurfing annoying when men have something to prove about it

I have never orgasmed from sex alone. It sucks.
I think my SO is tired of the challenge and it makes him feel smurffy, but he does very well orally to make up for it   It does take me ages even from oral though, but he's more than willing to take the time  

My first thought is this is the woman's problem. I feel when you aren't in tune with your body or do not know what makes it happen then how can you expect a man to?
From a man's POV, I think at first it could be considered a challenge but that would get old really quick. When two people are intimate they should explore each other and find what works to make them intertwine and feel as one. But then again I think sex is more than an orgasm <shrug>

I think it would be difficult for the man. Obviously, to O from sex alone is rare for women. Most of us need extra help. He can make me in other ways though, and every time we get busy, I get there. But to not have figured out how to do it regularly would be emasculating I think.

I dont think men care to be challenged in the bedroom.
When I dont cum, SO thinks its cause Im not turned on by him. Which frustrates me, cause he just doesnt seem to understand that women arent not built like men. We dont just release with a thought.

Im so glad Im not the only woman with this issue. I never O during sex. I almost did once...
Anyway, most men hate it. I learned to fake it. Had an ex that would get soooo mad if he knew I didnt O, though...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee:</b>" It makes my husband feel like a failure."</blockquote>




  I think for us though he knows I'm really easy to O. It doesn't take much so when I don't he feels like he failed. But the funny part is when he is trying to please me is when I don't O. But when he just lets go its amazing. I think because I can feel the difference in his body. When he's trying to please me first, he is close himself so he tightens up and hold back. Total turn off for me.

But I hate when they have something to prove. I like sex weather I O or not.

SO doesn't even want to have sex with me anymore because he hates feeling like a failure.

I have no issue reaching climax when i'm NOT pregnant... but when I get past about 20 weeks it's hit or miss and DH takes it really hard. He just doesn't understand how difficult it is when you're heavily pregnant.

I am that woman and my husband takes it personally, as if it's his fault. It drives me nuts because he doesn't get that it's not him... at all! He's the ONLY one who has ever done it for me, but that doesn't really make him feel better about it. He is a really easy going, let it roll off his back kind of guy and that is the one thing that bothers him about our relationship.

Quoting ZenMama:" I am that woman and my husband takes it personally, as if it's his fault. It drives me nuts because he ... [snip!] ... is a really easy going, let it roll off his back kind of guy and that is the one thing that bothers him about our relationship

SO and I have sat down and seriously talked about breaking up because he can't get me off at all anymore, nothing works. I have severe anxiety which makes it impossible for me to relax, I have a autoimmune disorder that makes an contact with certain parts of my body uncomfortable, and he's morbidly obese which (and I hate to admit it) has affected the things we can do.

I O pretty easily so when for some reason I don't (like when i was on antidepressants, whih caused me to not O the entire time i was on them) my husband feels like he did something wrong. I don't think he sees it as a challenge or has something to prove, I think he just wants me to feel the release and he gets super turned on when I climax. It actually trigggers his climax. God, we have amazing sex.