re: I'm going to give my 4.5 yo anxiety.

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" I'm like this with my two year old, and I see people letting their 2 year olds climb to the highest parts ... [snip!] ... of safety) then its a good thing. If you're acting like a nervous wreck the whole time then it will have a negative effect."

lt's sick really because it's to the point where I try to watch her so it is undetected to her or act like I'm not really watching her as intently as I really am!

I also try to educate her on the whole stranger danger thing. She is so outgoing and will talk to anyone and that scares the crap out of me! But she is getting better. She understands that the world is filled with good and bad people and that peoples intentions aren't always good.

I watch too much of the ID channel! It's turning me mental.

Quoting ashleyxdisaster:" lt's sick really because it's to the point where I try to watch her so it is undetected to her or ... [snip!] ... and bad people and that peoples intentions aren't always good. I watch too much of the ID channel! It's turning me mental."

stranger danger is kind of a double edged sword. Ninety-something percent of child abductions/molestations are by someone the child is familiar with.

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" stranger danger is kind of a double edged sword. Ninety-something percent of child abductions/molestations are by someone the child is familiar with."

That's a good point. We are thinking of teaching are daughters more specific situations like no one can touch them without permission even family and she is not allowed to go with a stranger anywhere. Her peditrician even asks her before taking her diaper off.

Quoting Clk:" I don't think you are too much of a helicopter parent. When I think paranoid parent it's the parents ... [snip!] ... own mind I know it is how they learn, and that she does need to slowly become more independent from me each year that passes."

"Helicopter parenting" is the best description ever! lol
I am the same with the rough and tumble stuff and the puddle jumping, bike riding, etc. That doesn't bother me so much, It's more of the accident-related things that terrify me, like drowning, getting hit by a car, falling off of a jungle gym.. That stuff. Or thinking she is going to be abducted. Those are my main issues.

Quoting Clk:" That's a good point. We are thinking of teaching are daughters more specific situations like no one can ... [snip!] ... even family and she is not allowed to go with a stranger anywhere. Her peditrician even asks her before taking her diaper off."

This is a really great idea! Thank you!

Quoting ashleyxdisaster:" "Helicopter parenting" is the best description ever! lol I am the same with the rough and tumble ... [snip!] ... hit by a car, falling off of a jungle gym.. That stuff. Or thinking she is going to be abducted. Those are my main issues."

Well parents worry, and media doesn't help. As long as you are also allowing her to explore the world her way it's okay to supervise. Now if you are stopping her at every turn due to worry then it's an issue.

Quoting Clk:" That's a good point. We are thinking of teaching are daughters more specific situations like no one can ... [snip!] ... even family and she is not allowed to go with a stranger anywhere. Her peditrician even asks her before taking her diaper off."

That's the kind of thing. My mom also always told me that if she wasn't the one picking me up from school, she would call the school first and they would tell me, so if ANYONE, be it her long term boyfriend, a friend's mom or dad, her friends, a neighbor etc tried to say that my mom had asked them to come get me, I was to say no you're not and go back into school and wait for her.

Quoting Clk:" Well parents worry, and media doesn't help. As long as you are also allowing her to explore the world ... [snip!] ... to explore the world her way it's okay to supervise. Now if you are stopping her at every turn due to worry then it's an issue."

Very true. This makes me feel a lot better. I do let her explore things on her own and I don't breathe down her neck, per se. Just very cautious I guess! But I'm discovering that it's no more then most moms! Which makes me feel better.

The things that you describe don't sound too overprotective to me. Pools can be dangerous to unsupervised kids. Kids can dash into the streets and not letting your child out of your site at the playground just sounds like good parenting.

Now, if you said that you hover over her every second of every day, even in the safety of your own home, then maybe. But you just sound like a good mom to me.

Quoting Cute&Wicked:" The things that you describe don't sound too overprotective to me. Pools can be dangerous to unsupervised ... [snip!] ... over her every second of every day, even in the safety of your own home, then maybe. But you just sound like a good mom to me."

Awe thank you so much! That's really reassuring to hear!

I'm the same way with DD, So you're not alone. I let her start Prek a few weeks ago and I was damn petrified something would happen to her...it killed me letting her get on a bus with strangers and be out of my sight and protection. BUT She needed a required flu shot to continue going...and she's been sick so she's missing the deadline...so I guess she can't go to school anymore...In a way I'm relieved, but I'm so upset because she was finally getting over her anxiety because of her growing independence...and so was I   Ugh.