Not sure

A friend from work apparently just had an abortion. Her boyfriend told my husband so I haven't heard it from her. I'm pregnant and pretty excited but I'm wondering if I should try to keep from talking about it around her, I don't want to upset her. What do you think?

I would try and not mention it unless she asks you how you're feeling, etc.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" I would try and not mention it unless she asks you how you're feeling, etc."

This!!

I would try and talk to her if she ask you anything but wouldn't say anything unless she ask?

she doesnt know that you know she had an abortion right?
I just would act like I didnt know, and I wouldnt bring up pregnancy at all unless she brought it up. i would avoid it. because you never how they feel

Why is this in AS? You arent looking for support as you decide whether or not to have an abortion and you havent had one so....

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" she doesnt know that you know she had an abortion right? I just would act like I didnt know, and I wouldnt ... [snip!] ... didnt know, and I wouldnt bring up pregnancy at all unless she brought it up. i would avoid it. because you never how they feel"

This.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" your being against an abortion has nothing to do with this. and it's just cells."

Please unquote her. Her post was hidden.

Quoting Two Princesses:" Please unquote her. Her post was hidden."

yes please if you don't mind, the quote is upsetting :'(

in answer to OP, i would advise to mention it to her just as you would have done if you hadnt known... but hold off on any details (scan pics midwife visits, etc) unless she asks. after you have announced it to her, don't bring it up with her unless she does first.... even if you think complaining about the negative things about pregnancy (eg sickness, weight gain, not being able to drink, etc) to make her feel better- trust me she doesn;'t want to hear that, it won't help! just leave it.... this is my advice. but don't feel bad about being pregnant! and don't think that it's like a banned subject or something, if you need to leave the room to go puke or you have to attend an antenatal appointment or something and she asks what you were doing, don't feel like you have to make excuses, just say. if she's feeling ok about it and she wants to know stuff, she'll ask  

this is my advice as someone who's struggling after 2 difficult decisions, but she might be just FINE, it might have been completely what she wanted!! hope so  

you are very considerate to think of her <3 xx

and congratulations btw   x