So negative...

I don't know why I'm like this but I hate it. I'm such a negative person and I try not to b but it always seems to end up happening. I think it's partly depression ( I've read u can become mean and negative with depression) it's been like this for years since I was a kid   I always find something negative about a situation. I was talking to a psychiatrist for a while and it might have helped a little. But I want to find a way to be a happy and not be the way I am. I guess u can say I'm the type that sees the cup as half empty lol . Is anyone else out there like this? I need advice please  

I am like this.
I seriously "hate" everything.   I have a therapist and a psychiatrist, I went through a lot during active duty and it completely changed my view on life, and ultimately changed me completely. As easy as it is to stay negative and find the negative in everything- before you say something think. "Is this going to make me sound like a heartless bitch?" Lol, I have to ask myself that all of the time. My issues are deep, though- I honestly don't think I will ever change... but I have filtered what I say so I don't seem as hateful.
 

If you ever need to talk you can always PM me.

I am a very negative person as well.. I'm very untrusting (I know that's not a word, I'm exhausted lol) of people as well. I always see all the ways that people could screw me over, even if they've given me no reason to. I grew up with a useless mother that neglected me, and have been lied to and cheated on by everyone I've ever trusted. I try not to be so negative but it's freaking hard sometimes. I think I should be in therapy but I dunno how to go about it. I have a loooot of skeletons lol

I am like this a lot.
Sometimes i am sometime i'm not because i am bi-polar and have depression and some other things so my moods change so often its hard to keep up with sometimes.
I try my best to stay positive, but sometimes its so hard to do that.

I know i need therapy, but at the moment i don't have the money to do so i try to just deal with what i can however i can.

Me too. I've been this way since I was a child and went through traumatic things. I am bipolar II as well which is mainly depression phases less manic phases. I use my negativity as a defense mechanism. I don't see it as negative. I see it as realistic bc if I get my hopes up and get let down it hurts so much worse than to have "realistic" expectations then be pleasantly surprised if something good happens. My favorite phrase is "of course". Of course that happened lol but I do try not to dwell on negative things that do happen bc it tends to make more and worse things happen imo.

But I want to be known as the girl who is always smiling, always cheerful and happy. I wanna be that go lucky go with the flow bubbly positive person. I'm in therapy and she wants to try hypnosis with positive affirmations to get me to change. I'm willing to try it but I take my lo with me and haven't had a chance to schedule one without her due to sitter issues.

Its draining and exhausting to be this way  

I am exactly this way, I want more than anything to be happy a cheerful, but I'm miserable and honestly I don't know why people who dont have to (my family) put up with me. Problem is, I don't want to be on medication. Ugh I hope things get better foe you.

I personally like St johns wort or Sam e which are herbs. I don't take medication. Also yoga, writing, any exercise outside, chakras, meditation with deep breathing, swimming, cooking, volunteering and just walking outside really help me. Also something like 60% or more of people have a vitamin d dificiency. 15 minutes of sun on the arms and legs and 2000 to 10,000 iu a day of d3 is key. D dificiency causes depression and fatigue.

I lean to the pessimistic/realist side.

That way I can only ever be pleasantly surprised if things don't go as expected  

Have you tried altering your diet/exercise lifestyle to get endorphin boosts?

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" Me too. I've been this way since I was a child and went through traumatic things. I am bipolar II as ... [snip!] ... me and haven't had a chance to schedule one without her due to sitter issues. Its draining and exhausting to be this way  "</blockquote>




It is! I am such a bitch all the time and so judgmental I really hate it. But idk how to I think I need prescription meds but I hate to go down to tht. I tried St. John's wort but it made me feel weird when I slept lol an I hear it makes bc not work

<blockquote><b>Quoting babymama0324:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" Me too. I've been this way since I was ... [snip!] ... but I hate to go down to tht. I tried St. John's wort but it made me feel weird when I slept lol an I hear it makes bc not work"</blockquote>




I know how you feel. I don't like to overload my body with meds or herbs every day but I do take 2000 to.4000 iu vitamin d3 each day.

One day at a time. Honestly the biggest thing that helped me was God. I'm not a Christian but believe in a higher power I call God. I was given good advice. To consider God in every action I do for one week.straight. I did and it made me happier. Like my temper was less and I was calmer. I wanted to help people more and smiled more. I should try this again actually  

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" I personally like St johns wort or Sam e which are herbs. I don't take medication. Also yoga, writing, ... [snip!] ... 15 minutes of sun on the arms and legs and 2000 to 10,000 iu a day of d3 is key. D dificiency causes depression and fatigue."</blockquote>

*Watching, wanting to try things you listed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mom-moo:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" I personally like St johns wort or Sam ... [snip!] ... day of d3 is key. D dificiency causes depression and fatigue."</blockquote> *Watching, wanting to try things you listed."</blockquote>



Also cutting gluten and dairy can help with a lot of issues too. I'm having a hard time with that one haha

<blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" I lean to the pessimistic/realist side. That way I can only ever be pleasantly surprised if things don't ... [snip!] ... surprised if things don't go as expected   Have you tried altering your diet/exercise lifestyle to get endorphin boosts?"</blockquote>




I used to be big on dieting and excersise I haven't since the holidays and I work so much :/ but I honestly don't think that would help I've been this way since I was a kid, n I feel bad, I was always mean to my parents even now and I have the best parents ever. My mom does everything and anything for me and I treat her like smurf   I'm jus an awful person

<blockquote><b>Quoting babymama0324:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" I lean to the pessimistic/realist ... [snip!] ... I have the best parents ever. My mom does everything and anything for me and I treat her like smurf   I'm jus an awful person"</blockquote>




I was very inconsiderate as a child and thoought I deserved everything. I played the victim. I had a legitimately bad childhood but it wasn't my dad's fault.

I feel bad bc I am in bad moods at family events most of the time even though I should be happy. My dad hates the way I am. It hurts his feelings  

Ugh why is it so hard to change?

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting babymama0324:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev ... [snip!] ... the time even though I should be happy. My dad hates the way I am. It hurts his feelings   Ugh why is it so hard to change?"</blockquote>

You an me are both in the same boat   u can message me if u want to talk!