Quoting BG Secrets:" I've tried to tell him how i feel before but he just gets really mad & says well just divorce me ... [snip!] ... think it would bother him if we got divorced. I'm tired of being the only one that is making the effort in this relationship."
He sounds like he may be bi-polar. He may not want to get a divorce and just say things at the moment like most of us have done before in the moment, but if you aren't happy and he isn't happy then your children aren't going to grow up happy. I know it is hard, but you have to think of the health and welfare of your children. If you have to tell him you want a divorce and then send him divorce papers or whatever you call them so he knows your serious. I don't think you exactly confused, i think you feel stuck you want to make it work to be a family, but you don't have feelings to make it work. Sometimes 2 people are better apart then together.