Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" I think that's a bad way to think about it. Sure, its good to do something for your SO or whatever, ... [snip!] ... while doing it and be relaxed than hating every second and not putting any real effort into it and making it a bad experience. "
agree with this, think of it the other way around- if you found out your SO absolutely hated going down on you could you still enjoy it? would you still let him do it? if i was in that situation i would not be able to enjoy it and i could not let him do it!
if it's a case of you don't get off on it yourself over doing it (as some women on here clearly do!
) but you don't mind doing it to please him, then no problem with that. but if it's something you really, really HATE, then... who cares, well- HE should!! you shouldnt expect your soulmate to suffer at your pleasure, it's disrespectful