Quoting I♥MyTots:" Ignore his phone calls and text unless you have to talk to him. Tell him he can call you to talk about ... [snip!] ... the kids but if he's just going to call you names and talk about other things not related to the kids, you'll gladly hang up."Current SO met the boys - when he met them BD was in jail.
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Current SO met the boys - when he met them BD was in jail. BD thinks he can dictate if SO can go around ... [snip!] ... SO can go around the kids or not. I offered to let BD meet SO but he refused saying he'd just beat the smurf outta him -___-"
Quoting Lauralie89:" Id threaten to take HIM to court if he wants to play those games. He has no right to be like that and you shouldn't allow him to do it anymore."Yeah yesterday I mentioned court and he flipped out threatening to take full custody.
Quoting I♥MyTots:" Tell him to go ahead and "beat the smurf out of him" and see how he likes it in jail. "My current SO just rolls his eyes and keeps his mouth shut.
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Yeah yesterday I mentioned court and he flipped out threatening to take full custody. It honestly scares ... [snip!] ... his "rules" so he doesn';t retaliate and use them against me. I hate how we're broken up and i'm still living in fear of him."
Quoting Third Time Mommy:" Is there a custody agreement already in place, or you just let him take the kids?"There's no custody agreement in place.
Quoting I♥MyTots:" The best thing to do, is just go ahead and get a lawyer and get papers drawn up in court and then you ... [snip!] ... and then you don't have to worry about him taking them from you and he doesn't have to worry about you taking them from him. "I can't afford a lawyer.
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" I can't afford a lawyer. /="
Quoting I♥MyTots:" Can't you go through social services and get a lawyer? I know they provide one if you're filing for child support, not sure about custody, but I guess it'd be the same thing??"I could definitely look into it, i'm sure there are programs for low income moms.
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" There's no custody agreement in place. I HAVE the paperwork to do it, but i'm scared to start the process because of his reaction. Not to mention the cost."