Feeling not wanted :(

The past 4 nights ive askes SO to make love and hes made excuses everytime. We've been arguing more than ususl lately and thw other night I was up feeding DD and he was moaning his ex's name. That hurt pretty bad, especially since he isny sleeping with me. Tonight I tried again and he was ready but I wasnt. I asked for some help and all he did was put me on top and kiss me after I told him me being on top doesn't do it for me lately. So now hes blamimg this all on me saying im not attracted to him anymore. That is completely wrong. He hadnt even wantes to be around me lately. I feel like everything is falling apart all the sudden and I don't know what to do. I just wanna make love to my hubby and be close to him ;( I feel so unwanted and sad right now.

Quoting Noah && Libbys Mommy  :" The past 4 nights ive askes SO to make love and hes made excuses everytime. We've been arguing more than ... [snip!] ... and I don't know what to do. I just wanna make love to my hubby and be close to him ;( I feel so unwanted and sad right now."

Moaning his ex's name?
In what context?

Just crawl up on him and get it on.
Or wake him up to a hand job.  

Mine is out kids our in our bed.... my daughter co-sleeps but im going to try getting her in her crib soon just pain in the ass in the middle of the night to only walk one foot away and pick her up when i can just roll over and put the boob in her mouth lol... My son gets in ours in the middle of the night because he likes our new big bed better,

But i do try to make time for it some times by the time i hit the bed at night i just want to relax and go to sleep so if he tells me in the morning i make my self prepared.

Quoting Noah && Libbys Mommy  :" The past 4 nights ive askes SO to make love and hes made excuses everytime. We've been arguing more than ... [snip!] ... and I don't know what to do. I just wanna make love to my hubby and be close to him ;( I feel so unwanted and sad right now."

Im sorry things are sucky right now.

But hun, as I read this I went from feeling your need to be with him, to reaading how when he put you on top you then didnt want it.....making him feel the same way as you are feeling.

Someones got to give in this and be the bigger person and suck it up for a night or two until you guys get it back on track.

Quoting ♥supermommy:" Moaning his ex's name? In what context?"

this my husband called me his ex wifes name when he was half asleep lets say that was the last time he said that to me....

Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:" Mine is out kids our in our bed.... my daughter co-sleeps but im going to try getting her in her crib ... [snip!] ... the time i hit the bed at night i just want to relax and go to sleep so if he tells me in the morning i make my self prepared. "

lol...what are you talking about?

My bd can be the same.
Sometimes he's really affectionate, like over the top.
But then he gets in these weird phases where he's too tired for sex, or we will have sex but it's just not the same, like it's me initiating it, and doing all the work and he doesn't give mine any clue that he's even enjoying it, and OMG he gets off wayyyy too fast.....
What works for me is if I ignore him. Guys like the chase, yes, EVEN if you are married.. He's gonna be more interested in you if he has to try to get YOUR attention.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" Im sorry things are sucky right now. But hun, as I read this I went from feeling your need to ... [snip!] ... Someones got to give in this and be the bigger person and suck it up for a night or two until you guys get it back on track."

Basically this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥supermommy:</b>" Moaning his ex's name? In what context?"</blockquote>




Im not sure. I think it was a sex dream. But she was a horrible horrible persib and he claims he hates her and says he was prolly killing her?? I doubt that tho.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" Im sorry things are sucky right now. But hun, as I read this I went from feeling your need to ... [snip!] ... Someones got to give in this and be the bigger person and suck it up for a night or two until you guys get it back on track."</blockquote>




I guess I didn't look at it that way. Its just I had a cyst cut out of my vaginal wall about 7 or 8 weeks ago and its still tender there. Sorry for tmi, but if im not wet enough for penetration it hurts so bad. I just wanted him to help me out some and he wouldn't. He acted like he had no idea what I meant. Im not going to get on top and force it in, hurting myself in the process. That's what he didn't get.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥supermommy:</b>" My bd can be the same. Sometimes he's really affectionate, like over the top. But then he gets in these ... [snip!] ... like the chase, yes, EVEN if you are married.. He's gonna be more interested in you if he has to try to get YOUR attention."</blockquote>




I do that too. But 4 days of him telling me no, and moaning his exs name in uis sleep really really got to me. Hes usually always pretty touchy feely and affectionate and he just like stopped and wanted nothing to do with me. Wouldn't let me go anywhere with him, id just sit at the house with the kids until he got back and ignored me some more.

Quoting Noah && Libbys Mommy  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" Im sorry things are sucky right now. ... [snip!] ... had no idea what I meant. Im not going to get on top and force it in, hurting myself in the process. That's what he didn't get."

to him, thats all just gonna sound like an excuse.


Like I said mama...one of you need to be the hero and take it for the team until things get back on track.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shannonsfirst:</b>" to him, thats all just gonna sound like an excuse. Like I said mama...one of you need to be the hero and take it for the team until things get back on track."</blockquote>




Yeah I guess so. Men are so complicated sometimes.