Quoting LolaMcKitten:" I don't think it's anyone elses business. Why are you putting her business on the web for everyone to ... [snip!] ... I wonder if a lot of you claiming to be paying for her kids actually understand how very little of your check goes to welfare? "
We, especially me, are talking in a general way. I am not from the U.S, as you can see, but in my country, a lot of our checks go to welfare, yes, some families do need it.. while others are just selfish and keep having babies of their own and let other support them.
My mom wanted a third baby, too.. Why didn't she have it? because she knew she couldn't give 3 kids the quality of life we have.. And she knew she'd struggle. Call that wisdom, solidity.
And it's no one's business? Well, IF they could fully support the children.. Obviously it's no one's business. BUT.. they don't. I don't really think my mom who works her ass off everyday should be making money to go to women who have 6,7,8 kids "just because they want them".
People just need to grow up a little and realize we can't have everything we wish for. Yes, wanting a baby is a precious desire.. But if you can't support them.. you shouldn't be counting on other people or external help to raise your own.