re: Does your DH..

<blockquote><b>Quoting FutureMommyof2:</b>" No and thank goodness Bc that had to be the biggest turnoff ever."</blockquote>




Sooooo true!

Do you initiate sex much? I don't, but I don't really know how? I don't have much sexy lingerie (I might buy more with some money I got this Christmas) and I don't feel sexy enough to do anything spontaneous. Not to mention he works til 11pm so I am tired by then.

I initiate sex just about every time we have sex. I just start playing with him, kiss him, or start masturbating. He'll join in.

nope. that would be me getting pissy, cuz i don't get it. lol

yes he does. It further turns me off from sex. He still hasn't figured out that if he pisses me off all day long then I am not going to want to have sex with him. Like I asked him 5 times yesterday to take out the trash and excess from Christmas since today is trash day. He even took the can down there but everything is still sitting in the house and he doesn't see what is wrong.

Not at all. We had sex A TON throughout my pregnancy, up until the last few weeks. It was just so uncomfortable for me. He would ask & if I said no he would understand.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" yes he does. It further turns me off from sex. He still hasn't figured out that if he pisses me off all ... [snip!] ... is trash day. He even took the can down there but everything is still sitting in the house and he doesn't see what is wrong."</blockquote>




Oh my god this too.
He gets rude if I start falling asleep when we're in bed before we've done it, and then I'm lying there like, he's not making me want to have sex by being a prick, but he's getting more annoyed when I drift off, BUT if I try and 'make it up to him' he gets pissed because I'm only doing it to stop him from being pissed!! I cannot win.

Yes he does. It's such a major turn off too.

no i am right there with you! i dont feel sexy enough  

Quoting FutureMommyof2:" No and thank goodness Bc that had to be the biggest turnoff ever."

why can't guys understand that?
this ruined my first relationship. i totally loved him and everything, but a few years of whining and pissing and moaning every time i said no.... finally completely turned me off. forever.

<blockquote><b>Quoting regina_margot:</b>" why can't guys understand that? this ruined my first relationship. i totally loved him and everything, ... [snip!] ... but a few years of whining and pissing and moaning every time i said no.... finally completely turned me off. forever."</blockquote>




See at first we had lots of sex but 1. We was young 2. He actually tried being sweet before trying to jump on me :/

7.5 years later.... Here's where we are he's mean when he doesn't get sex.

No. He's got a hand if he needs it that bad.

Quoting regina_margot:" why can't guys understand that? this ruined my first relationship. i totally loved him and everything, ... [snip!] ... but a few years of whining and pissing and moaning every time i said no.... finally completely turned me off. forever."

I worry about that happening in my relationship. I already hardly want to have sex with him. I like to have sex but the pure effort it takes to have sex with HIM is beginning to be not worth it. He will beg and beg and beg then get mean about it then if I actually try to have sex with him then I have to "work" for it because he isn't just going to give it to me. By the time we are done with that whole song and dance I would rather not even have sex.

He was sweet in the beginning. He actually tried and was nice and sweet.

Quoting Addi's Momma:" I worry about that happening in my relationship. I already hardly want to have sex with him. I like ... [snip!] ... song and dance I would rather not even have sex. He was sweet in the beginning. He actually tried and was nice and sweet."

there may be some way to break the cycle. i don't know how, tho.
in fairness, we're all different in the beginning, before we get jaded and busy.

Quoting regina_margot:" there may be some way to break the cycle. i don't know how, tho. in fairness, we're all different in the beginning, before we get jaded and busy."

very true. I just wish he still didn't expect the same amount of sex with the way he acts.