cheating and moving on..

have thou ever cheated on a significant other and ended up staying together, happily? or vice versa? just wondering if there are any success stories or is cheating always the death of a relationship?

I think it's possible and I've seen it happen.
It's hard and a lot of work is required to build trust and respect eye.
But I believe it can be done.

Me personally no. but i have heard of people kinda working it out but it never being the same.

Not personally but i've known people that afterwards the relationship wasn't the same (a lot of bitterness, paranoia ... ect) and others that say it actually made them stronger (they went through counselling and worked hard at their relationship).

If I know a couple that has done this successfully they've kept the cheating a secret from me....because I know of none. I do know one couple where he's had a mistress for a bajillion years & she acts like that isn't happening. She hasn't worn her wedding ring in ages though.

That isn't to say I don't think it's possible. Anything is possible - it depends on the people involved.

Yes it can happen. I cheated on my current boyfriend with my ex boyfriend after we were together for 8 months. I think we got past it because I explained it to him why I did it and how bad I felt. I hate that it happened but we are perfectly fine now at almost 2 years together.

Quoting Gone 12345....:" have thou ever cheated on a significant other and ended up staying together, happily? or vice versa? just wondering if there are any success stories or is cheating always the death of a relationship?"

Like others have said, not personally, but I know people that have been together for 12 years, and the other cheated on the other one in the very begnning. They are married and have children and are very much in-love. So, guess it's different for everyone.

If you both want the relationship then yes it is possible to work through it, My ex cheated on me with multiple girls and each time I looked past it, the only reason why we actually ended it was because of how he treated me and my mom wanted me away from him so badly, she introduced me to my now husband. My brother in-law cheated on my sister emotionally and physically, no one in my family has any respect for him, but they are still together after almost 4 years. so yes it is possible, but you BOTH have to work on it

I cheated (which I totally regret) almost 3 years ago. We ended up working it out and got married a little over a year later. Now we have a son, and I couldn't be happier. I think we are closer than ever. People make mistakes. We are all human, and if the people involved really love each other, it can work. True love conquers all.

Quoting ❥Me&Boogaman:" I cheated (which I totally regret) almost 3 years ago. We ended up working it out and got married a little ... [snip!] ... People make mistakes. We are all human, and if the people involved really love each other, it can work. True love conquers all."

I think maturity & the ability to forgive likely plays a much larger role in ANY relationship working out long term than "true love". I think LOTS of people love each other & can't make it work either out of selfishness, holding grudges or lack of maturity. I've seen plenty of good people split over what I would think of as relatively minor issues (meaning no abuse, no cheating, no addiction issues, etc) because they can't get forgive & move past mistakes. That can still happen even with couples that very much love each other.

And BTW - I think it is admirable to do the work it takes to heal a relationship after infidelity....so NONE of what I am saying is meant to downplay what you said - only to highlight that I think the reason you two worked past it has much more to do with OTHER areas than to do with love. Love may have motivated you to DO the work, but the work is what makes it work out.

My husband and I got together at a young age and were definitely not ready for a serious relationship. We both cheated and things got progressively worse and split multiple times until we finally matured. We loved each other dearly we just didn't know where to start. We finally let everything out and decided to leave it all behind us and move forward. It isn't easy but our marriage is 100% better and we are rebuilding our trust little by little and putting faith in each other.

I will not say that it can never be overcome but it takes two to rebuild the relationship and if your just going to be living in the past no matter what then it won't work.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Gone 12345....:</b>" have thou ever cheated on a significant other and ended up staying together, happily? or vice versa? just wondering if there are any success stories or is cheating always the death of a relationship?"</blockquote>

Not here...I've never heard of it to be honest...once the trust is gone its over

SO cheated on me when i first got pregnant and probally before that and the first few months.. he said it was because i stop having sex... at first he denied it even with all the evidence.. i ended things.. im 21 weeks now and we are trying to work things out.. he knows i have alot of trust issues with him now.. but were going to take it slow and see what happens..

I cheated on DH 3 times then when he found out he cheated on me. We are still together. It is hard as smurf but owell. When I cheated I wasn't in the right state of mind. Addicted to heroin, low self worth and he would ignore me and our son. So he cheated to get back at me which back fired and made him feel like smurf. After us both getting clean and finally talking about what we both wanted we are going good.

DH cheated on me right after we got married. It was a really tough time in both of our lives. I forgave him & we worked through it. Six years later, we are happier & more in love than I thought possible.