adoption... don't do it.

if you have ever contemplated it.. don't do it. almost nine years later and its still my biggest regret. every holiday feels like the worst holiday. I have babies of my own now and I shouldn't feel this way. I should have gotten over this years ago.. and I haven't. I think about her every day. I cry all the time. I was ripped off, tricked and manipulated. it is now clear to me I will never get past this. why the smurf did I do it. I could have terminated. I could have kept her. I SHOULD have kept her. instead I let some stupid organization sell her and profit off of my naivety. I wish someone would have stopped me. Ugh. every smurfing day I think about this and how I can't take it back. Okay. I'm done venting.

<3 I can't say I know what you're going through, but I can say I'm only a text away if you ever need to talk. Did you ever get into some kind of birth mother support group? Maybe connecting with other birth mothers would do you some good.

I'm sorry  

I have met with a couple but it doesn't help. I don't feel like this will ever end. I will always be bitter. I wish I could go back. since I can't I will just keep discouraging other women from being taken advantage of by baby hungry people.

I am sorry that you are having such a hard time with this. I agree, maybe a support group or some counseling will be of some help to you. ~hugs

  I'm sorry  

I'm so sorry honey. <3
I just terminated a pregnancy, I could have never chosen adoption.
You DID make a family very happy though. Try to think of the light in the midst of the darkness you feel.
You must try.
<3
love.

Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" I have met with a couple but it doesn't help. I don't feel like this will ever end. I will always be ... [snip!] ... I could go back. since I can't I will just keep discouraging other women from being taken advantage of by baby hungry people."

Maybe you can become an advocate for educating women on adoption choices? I know you're getting into the pp doula thing, and maybe you can do this too. Like, be the woman's voice for an adoption, and make sure it's what she wants and how she wants. Idk much about adoption, but it might help you feel better.

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Boats&Hoes]:</b>" Maybe you can become an advocate for educating women on adoption choices? I know you're getting into ... [snip!] ... an adoption, and make sure it's what she wants and how she wants. Idk much about adoption, but it might help you feel better. "</blockquote>




I've contemplated protesting in front of the agencies here and handing out anti human trafficking flyers but I don't think people understand that there really is no difference. and u would look wacko. $10 k to adopt, sometimes more, then couples get a tax credit for adopting. what do birth moms get? stretch marks and no baby to show for it. it's robbery.

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Boats&Hoes]:</b>" Maybe you can become an advocate for educating women on adoption choices? I know you're getting into ... [snip!] ... an adoption, and make sure it's what she wants and how she wants. Idk much about adoption, but it might help you feel better. "</blockquote>


Sounds like an adoption doula...looking out for (birth) mom's rights. And making sure she is aware of other options and programs to make it easier for her to keep a baby if she wants or to have some option for contact with baby as he/she grows.

Adoption IS the right choice for some and an absolutely beautiful and amazing thing when it IS WANTED by BOTH parties, but I can't imagine how painful it is for a birth mother pressured into it.

I am so sorry   I can't even imagine...

Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting [Boats&Hoes]:</b>" Maybe you can become an advocate for educating ... [snip!] ... then couples get a tax credit for adopting. what do birth moms get? stretch marks and no baby to show for it. it's robbery."

  <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting [Boats&Hoes]:</b>" Maybe you can become an advocate for educating ... [snip!] ... amazing thing when it IS WANTED by BOTH parties, but I can't imagine how painful it is for a birth mother pressured into it."</blockquote>




see but birth moms HAVE NO RIGHTS. NONE. it is bullsmurf. the system is broken and unfair. had I known then that adopters can break the contract at any time with no penalty I never would have signed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ darah ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting [Boats&Hoes]:</b>" ... [snip!] ... broken and unfair. had I known then that adopters can break the contract at any time with no penalty I never would have signed."</blockquote>


So they closed the adoption?

  Im sorry. I wish I knew something to say that would make you feel better