Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting whoknowsx:</b>" I'm so torn. I was adopted and I am grateful ... [snip!] ... Please know that your child is glad to be alive. xx"</blockquote> do you talk to your birth mom?or ever want to?"
Well, my Mom adopted 5 of us. But then again, she didn't really go through an agency and she didn't have to pay anything to get us- her husband was native so that's how she got us. (People still look at us funny when I call her Mom because I'm full Native and she's the whitest woman you'll ever know). When I was younger, I didn't want to talk to my birth parents, because I was confused and I never really had that desire (but my birth parents also made plans to see me, and my brother and I would wait all day, and they would never show) so I guess I quit waiting and quit wanting to wait. Now that I'm older, yes, I wish I could have had that connection, I guess. I mean, I don't have very many memories from when I was with them (I was adopted at 2), now I wish I would have known more.
But my Mom would have NEVER closed an adoption unless it was in the best interest of us (and at a time- it became what we needed in order to heal). I am so sorry that you are going through all of that, those people sound horrid! I'm sorry that you feel that way about adoption- I know that being on this side of adoption- that sometimes it is the very best for a child to be adopted. I wish there was a way that I could help. I hope that one day you will be able to heal and that one day you will be able to see your LO when they are ready.