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I have a 1 year old son who is out of control. When he doesn't get his way he literally EXPLODES he throws, bites, kicks, screams bloody murder FOREVER!!! I can't deal with this anymore and yes I have tried to get help. His doctor says that they cannot diagnose anything at his age. So I am supposed to SUFFER every day until they can?? I can't take this anymore and I am practically taking care of him myself!?!? I can't do this I am going crazy I am afraid I will hurt him!!! Nothing satisfies him unless it's food that he wants thats sweet, he's going to end up sick

If you honestly feel as if you will hurt him you need to go to a Dr/ER and tell them. I know its hard, and I know its crazy at times but hes a baby and has no idea what hes doing.

PLEASE..........

If you are afraid you will hurt him, call for help. NOW.

 

He sounds a lot like my little guy. What are you doing when he explodes? Are you yelling to be heard over him? or trying to restrain him? is he trying to attack you or are you hovering over him trying to calm him down?

I'm not judging at all. I'm going to urge you to get help if you feel you will hurt him. Anyway you can. Call someone. Go somewhere. Please. I don't want to see him getting hurt. I don't want to see you continue to suffer. Please get help. Soon

That sounds really rough. Even if they did diagnose him, it's not an instant fix. It can be a long arduous process for both parent and child. Put him in his crib and walk away. Sometimes, it's best.

Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" He sounds a lot like my little guy. What are you doing when he explodes? Are you yelling to be heard ... [snip!] ... be heard over him? or trying to restrain him? is he trying to attack you or are you hovering over him trying to calm him down?"

I try to calm him down by walking around with him but he wont stop screaming. He just gets angry about everything, id he sees me eating and I put it away he screams because he wants it. He does this about everything!! He tries to hit and bite and everything and I cannot passify him or anything. I feel like if I try to restrain him that makes him more mad and scream more. Idk what to do.

If you're worried that you're going to hurt your child, honey, it's not him that's out of control, it's you. Talk to your doctor instead of his. Believe it or not, his behavior is pretty normal for a 1 year old - they are little tyrants.

Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" If you're worried that you're going to hurt your child, honey, it's not him that's out of control, it's ... [snip!] ... to your doctor instead of his. Believe it or not, his behavior is pretty normal for a 1 year old - they are little tyrants."

I really don't think you understand! He is HORRIBLE!! He's a glutten and get's mad if he doesn't get the food he wants and he screams bloody murder. He doesn't just cry and get over it he will scream and hurt himself and kick and bite and everything...its horrible!! and I have absoloutely no help!

d on top of it all he doesn't sleep through the night, he will NOT let his body sleep at all. I don't understand why, he can be dead tired and will not allow himself to sleep. So he runs off practically no sleep.

Everything you're describing, is REALLY normal at his age hon....it REALLY is. I don't know why they call it the terrible twos, cause after one, two is GREAT.

Quoting ashleynb1991:" I try to calm him down by walking around with him but he wont stop screaming. He just gets angry about ... [snip!] ... I cannot passify him or anything. I feel like if I try to restrain him that makes him more mad and scream more. Idk what to do."

Yeah sounds a lot like my boy. Momma some days it's HELL , I never know what's going to set him off, but I've gotten better with dealing with it.

When he starts pitching a fit , first thing I do is take a deep breath and remind myself this is his only way of communicating .. helps me to stay calm. 2nd thing I do is set him down and wait till he starts to calm down. Once he starts to calm down, I talk quietly and calmly seems to calm him more.
Now that he's older 19 months he's gotten a lot better, and I can reason with him a little more. I still have to let the temper tantrum run it's course .I can't try hugging him/ restraining him and sometimes need to stay out of his reach from throwing stuff and biting till he is calm.

There is nothing wrong with taking a step back momma when you need too, just make sure he's safe and your watching him. If you have someone that can give you a little breather there to help by all means call in reinforcements . My hubby can't do a blasted thing with our boy so it's just me dealing with him when he's upset. hope this helps a little  

Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" Yeah sounds a lot like my boy. Momma some days it's HELL , I never know what's going to set him off, ... [snip!] ... . My hubby can't do a blasted thing with our boy so it's just me dealing with him when he's upset. hope this helps a little  "

Same here! His dad can't do crap!!! But I have no family to help or anything. Today has just been a nightmare for me. It doesn't help that I have no support.

Honestly, it sounds like he is addicted to sweets. A 1 yr old shouldn't even know what sweets are at this point. The sweets are most likely contributing to his behavior drastically. 1 yr old's are insane anyway, well, most of them are. Adding sugar is a disaster just waiting to happen. You need to retrain his eating habits and intake. It will be a very very hard road but you can do it if you put your mind to it. If you truly are afraid you are going to hurt him, PLEASE seek help.

Mine is 16 months and going through a stage similar to this. She's getting four teeth all at the same time. Perhaps he is teething? Once they get older they handle teething differently. Mine hits, then hugs. Throws fits during diaper changes...throws her food everywhere...won't eat hardly anything...won't nap, etc.

It really is a good idea to get a baby gate and just put him in his room alone for a while to play with his toys if he wants....or if he wants to throw a fit let him throw a fit.
You can't put the pressure on yourself to try to get him to settle down. Sometimes they have to learn to do this on their own. Let him cry it out. Seriously. Leave him to himself, even put a mirror in front of him to show him what he's doing. And get your Ipod or whatever...go outside for a bit...something to get you away.
And you also should talk to someone professional about your worries of hurting him. You're not alone feeling like this, I promise. You don't need to spend a body part and a half to go to the ER. Talk to your family doctor. They will have information of help hotlines, or psychiatrist phone numbers so you can set up an appointment.
And get a babysitter from time to time. Seriously. Give yourself a break and have some shift swapping if he's having a particularly bad day. You've got to keep your head, for yours AND his own good. Because if you're stressed, so is he. Babies are extremely sensitive to others' energies. They see stress and react to it, and it becomes a cycle that goes around and around. I'm really trying to break us from this right now.

Good luck hun...I hope you don't think you're alone feeling this way.

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