Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Dont make it about something its not...Im sure you are very deserving of a child. But Im not thinking ... [snip!] ... thrive in life. However she was not a father. There were certain things she couldnt teach and show me. Mothers cant be fathers."
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" And you know what? Everyday my mother wishes she was a single parent, that she had left my no good ... [snip!] ... either? Because your post implies exactly that, and I find that to be rather ignorant. All it takes is ONE good parent. ONE. "
Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" And you somehow turned what I said into an attack against gays? This conversation is done. Have a nice day."
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I think it depends on the state, but here in Ohio you don't have to be independently wealthy to foster ... [snip!] ... if the child is a minority (the system is full to the brim with black and Hispanic children not being adopted by people). "Have you checked into that? When I was looking into adopting from foster in my state there was ONE child available under a year & he had a terminal illness & was not expected to live to age three. THAT is the only child I was told was currently available for adoption. So we aren't *really* talking "full to the brim"/ My sister did adopt via foster & a child under a year, but she waited a long time & she was NOT ethnic specific at all & is well off, married for ages, had a couple of kids, etc. It was not an issue of her being a "less desirable" parent, she is what they drool over.
Quoting .Solange.:" I'm sorry Growing up, did you have any issues or resentment towards the fact that you were raised by a single parent? Did you feel like you missed out? "
Quoting khigh:" I didn't think they allowed singles to foster or adopt out of the system."
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" I was raised by a single mother. I was the 3rd of 4 girls. Yes I felt resentment. I didn't have my mother ... [snip!] ... that I should have had her. To this day we are not close and I am 22 years old. I don't advise ttc at this time in your life."But was your mother financially able to handle that many kids? Was she not in your life as much as youd of liked? I think something like this is to tied to different factors, and we can't really say the same formula works for everyone.
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" But was your mother financially able to handle that many kids? Was she not in your life as much as youd ... [snip!] ... I think something like this is to tied to different factors, and we can't really say the same formula works for everyone."