re: I don't want it

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" Well, since you posted this in the abortion SURVIVORS forum, you may not get very many people in this ... [snip!] ... "manned up", as you call it. This forum is for people who have HAD one or need support/advice to deal with their abortion...."</blockquote>




Im completely aware of where I posted this. I wanted to hear from both sides and that is exactly what I got.

btw thank you too all the women that have shared their situation and experiences. Im still deciding what I'm going to do. but this is by far the hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life

<blockquote><b>Quoting pretty 'n' pink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" Well, since you posted this in the abortion ... [snip!] ... experiences. Im still deciding what I'm going to do. but this is by far the hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life"</blockquote>




I think what she meant was the language you used "man up" and "stand up for myself" makes people like me who went through with abortion for someone else's sake feel like we are maybe weak or didn't try hard enough or something I know you didn't mean it like that way though! <3 Just explaining how your OP might infer to others and why I think you got that reply x

Quoting pixie b:" <blockquote><b>Quoting pretty 'n' pink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting S U ... [snip!] ... mean it like that way though! <3 Just explaining how your OP might infer to others and why I think you got that reply x"

 
That or make other people feel bad about the decision they made when there is nothing they can do about it now!

<blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>"   That or make other people feel bad about the decision they made when there is nothing they can do about it now!"</blockquote>




k well you are taking my words complety out of context. when I said "man up" I meant stop being around the Bush and telling him how I felt. And when I said "stand up for myself" I meant not letting him pressure me. I don't know how you would get so offended by that our turn my words around to make it seem like I am calling anyone else weak. I would never judge someone else or call them weak for having an abortion, that is their choice just like it is mine.

this post is strictly for advice on what I should do not about anyone else or their decision.

Quoting pretty 'n' pink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>"   That or make other people feel bad about ... [snip!] ... choice just like it is mine. this post is strictly for advice on what I should do not about anyone else or their decision."

hun i was trying to explain to you... i KNOW you didn't mean it that way and it's out of context- and she didn't turn your words around, to be fair that was me.... you know why though- because if anyone knows how your words can get turned around and offend people it's ME!!!!! because I AM one of those women who have been there and done it and feel bad about the decisions i made!!!

i know it's not YOU who is being offensive or meaning to cause offence, it's ME who is turning those words around in MY head because i am feeling low about what happened and i have low self-esteem and i will turn ANYTHING around in my head to make myself feel smurffy about what i have done.

suzie is right, she isn't trying to be an smurf with you, and nor am I for that matter! just explaining how sensitive we can be, people who have just done it... i know because ive just done it... twice...

suzie didnt turn your words around hun, i did! but that's not your fault! it's not that i want to start an argument either, i might twist your words around but to hurt myself, not you x

i know you didnt call me weak, but i feel like because i didn;t "man up" maybe i was weak and i shouldve "stood up for myself" and sometimes i feel sad that i didnt/couldnt   other times i feel strong and realise that what i did in fact took A LOT of courage and to have done as i had wanted would have been the easy path to take, and what i actually did took a lot of guts to "man up" for my family, for my children, i took a smurfing beating for them!! i need to tell myself that all the time to get over this, but it's hard when it's something you didnt want to do and i have plenty of moments of weakness where i twist everything around to beat myself over the head with

hope i explained it well and smoothed over any ruffles.... just explaining how sensitive people in my position can be.... it's not your fault we are sensitive though ! x

<blockquote><b>Quoting pixie b:</b>" hun i was trying to explain to you... i KNOW you didn't mean it that way and it's out of context- and ... [snip!] ... any ruffles.... just explaining how sensitive people in my position can be.... it's not your fault we are sensitive though ! x"</blockquote>




pixie that wasn't meant for you. I know you understand. Im sorry that you had to make that decision. I hope it gets easier

She did use "man up" and "stand up for myself" in the context of telling her boyfriend she doesn't want the abortion...not to say that she was going to "man up" by not getting one or anything like that. I wouldn't take that offensively.