Quoting pretty 'n' pink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting S U Z I E:</b>" That or make other people feel bad about ... [snip!] ... choice just like it is mine. this post is strictly for advice on what I should do not about anyone else or their decision."
hun i was trying to explain to you... i KNOW you didn't mean it that way and it's out of context- and she didn't turn your words around, to be fair that was me.... you know why though- because if anyone knows how your words can get turned around and offend people it's ME!!!!! because I AM
one of those women who have been there and done it and feel bad about the decisions i made!!!
i know it's not YOU who is being offensive or meaning to cause offence, it's ME who is turning those words around in MY head because i am feeling low about what happened and i have low self-esteem and i will turn ANYTHING around in my head to make myself feel smurffy about what i have done.
suzie is right, she isn't trying to be an smurf with you, and nor am I for that matter! just explaining how sensitive we can be, people who have just done it... i know because ive just done it... twice...
suzie didnt turn your words around hun, i did! but that's not your fault! it's not that i want to start an argument either, i might twist your words around but to hurt myself, not you x
i know you didnt call me weak, but i feel like because i didn;t "man up" maybe i was weak and i shouldve "stood up for myself" and sometimes i feel sad that i didnt/couldnt
other times i feel strong and realise that what i did in fact took A LOT of courage and to have done as i had wanted would have been the easy path to take, and what i actually did took a lot of guts to "man up" for my family, for my children, i took a smurfing beating for them!! i need to tell myself that all the time to get over this, but it's hard when it's something you didnt want to do and i have plenty of moments of weakness where i twist everything around to beat myself over the head with
hope i explained it well and smoothed over any ruffles.... just explaining how sensitive people in my position can be.... it's not your fault we are sensitive though ! x