Quoting Katie & Clay's Mommy!:" That's smurffy on his part. I mean he chose to stick it in without making sure he was covered. I hate ... [snip!] ... a father. That just pisses me off. But you did the right thing. Children are a blessing. I wouldn't trade my kids for any man."Ugh you hit the nail on the head! He got another girl pregnant and married her. They're now expecting their second, after he gave up his rights to mine.
Quoting Amber; ღ:" I don't think it's smurffy. He could have been more careful to not get her pregnant. I know it takes both parties to get pregnant, but he shoulda thought about that before hand."
Quoting Jas ♥:" It is smurffy. Would anyone expect for OP to pay CS if she gave up her rights (adoption)? Exactly. If a woman can completely walk away from a child, a man should be able to also. Period."
Quoting Amber; ღ:" But it's the truth."
Quoting Amber; ღ:" But for adoption, both parents have to give up their rights."
Quoting Jas ♥:" No, actually its not. If I was to get pregnant right now, you bet your ass my husband's, my PARTNER in life, opinion matters."
Quoting Amber; ღ:" It may MATTER to you, but he can't force you to do anything you don't wanna do. Plus, I'd choose a kid over a man any day."
Quoting Jas ♥:" There's no difference, really. Its a double standard and you and anyone else can try to make excuses ... [snip!] ... without the father's consent. All the birth mother has to do is claim she doesn't know who the father is. Happens pretty often."
Quoting Lizplustwo:" Ugh you hit the nail on the head! He got another girl pregnant and married her. They're now expecting their second, after he gave up his rights to mine."
Quoting Jas ♥:" His opinion being important to me =/= forcing me to keep or abort. Wow. "
Quoting Amber; ღ:" I don't get how you see it's different. And I know there are women who do that and if they truly did ... [snip!] ... having babies. You know how many 'fathers' would just give up their rights so they don't have to pay CS?! It'd be ridiculous."
Quoting Amber; ღ:" Ya, I mean at the end of the day they can't force you to do anything. The ball is always in the woman's court when it comes to choosing what to do with a pregnancy."
Quoting Jas ♥:" And a woman should be fully prepared for that. When she decides to have sex, she is not the only one ... [snip!] ... it, she should make sure she will be able to take care of it on her own because you never know what cards life will deal you."
Quoting Amber; ღ:" And so should the man."
Quoting Jas ♥:" Right. I didn't say it wasn't. I'm saying that I don't tell my husband to basically smurf off, its my body and I'll do what I want. I'd hear him out because I respect him."