re: Parenting classes for teen aged girls

Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:" I watched a show in Britain about exactly that. The teenagers were watched by the parents 24/7 in a ... [snip!] ... say none of the teenagers went on with their dream of teenage parenthood. Wouldn't be surprised if they went and got fixed lol"

that show as awesome ... I also love BratCamp.

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:</b>" And there are plenty of boys putting ... [snip!] ... And i'm pretty sure the point of the class would be to get to them before they reproduce, so again, your point is irrelevant."

How is it irrelevant to get to boys at the same time you get to girls? Like I said before these girls can't trick boys if they don't have sex with them.

I don't think it would change anything. Taking care of a baby for a week with adult supervision is really just babysitting; playing house. It may backfire as it can seem "fun" for that amount of time.

The truth is that teens are stupid, they think they can break the cycle, that they can do it all, that they can be better at everything than everyone around them, that they have so much "life experience" that they can do whatever they want. Its their brain immaturity, no class is going to change that.

Quoting The Master:" that show as awesome ... I also love BratCamp."

Me too! Loved that show. I used to watch it with my mum and I would be like "See? I wasn't that bad was I?"

And she'd reply "Yeah cos I sent you to BOOT camp not BratCamp"  

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting xTJ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ... [snip!] ... long as our society raises girls from a young age to want to be mommies and boys from a young age to believe that's girl smurf."

I really do not think it's more girls than guys. They may want to be Mommies, but there are just as many dumbass guys that believe "Oh, pull out method works, it feels better" and they gt pregnant. You see little boys that want ass and romantacize girls "Oh girl, you know I'd never leave you, you are my number one" and then screw her in the back of his car and turn around to high five his buddies "Yeah I nailed that ass." Girls ARE naive in believing that guys will stay and help and love them, but thats the guys fault. It's not mainly the girls, whether or not we raise them to believe that the end result is mommyhood in their life. Even if we took away the glorification of being a Mommy and made it real... you would still have little boys swooning girls because he wants to tap that ass.

Girls need to be armed with their own condoms. They need to use the triple method that I learned in high school... I took a class that showed the REAL bullsmurf of society... we even watched Faces of Death and learned about REAL effects of drugs (I actually helped in that unit since I was working with DanceSafe, another great source for real drug info) and all sorts of stuff that we needed permission from our parents AND the principal to take the class. We learned about the triple method "Something for the boy, something for the girl, something for both." Meaning condom for boy, birth control for girl, and spermicide for both. You can change each up as needed but using that method its almost damn impossible to get pregnant. You teach them that its the responsibility of BOTH and then the couple together so no one can point fingers and say "Well you poked holes in the condom!" There are 2 other backups if that happens.

Also, if parents wouldnt flip their smurf when a teen says "I need birth control" it'd help. If I called my Mom and said "While you are at the store, can you get me condoms?" She would. I became pregnant while using protection and my Mom wasnt mad because she knew I was being safe. Parents dont need to freak out... that just leads to lack of protection and sneaking around!

There was a show on UK tv about REAL sex ed and it was great. It didn't sugar coat anything. It was warts and all. It hid nothing from kids. It talked openly about masturbation, STDs, real bodies and real issues. It showed short but real porn clips and made it obvious how what they see in porn is so far removed from real sex. The parents didn't realise that most teens by age 15-16 have seen free online porn and as that's their only point of reference, they then go on to think all people should look and act like those porn stars..... so teens really thought that all girls should have symetrical boobs and be able to deep throat a penis for 20 minutes before having an arm shoved up their vaginas to the elbow!!!!! After this real sex ed the teen boys were in awe of their natural yet flawed female classmates. You could see the respect growing before your very eyes as they realised that the porn image was the false image and the girls they see everyday are the goddesses. It was great. Real sex ed focussing on respect and relationships is better than any sugar coated, cold, sciencey sex ed any day! These teens, both boys and girls had new respect for their own bodies, other people's bodies and their potential partner's bodies and emotions. This show was taken to many high schools around the UK and I wish it was made a proper and permanent thing in schools but too many schools thing teaching them less is better. They think this real sex ed show is teaching them too much about sex. The proof was there though. These kids felt like they'd been really taught something and had seen it in a new and better light. They also learned that there's really no need to rush and most said afterwards that knowing what they had just learned they really didn't feel ready for sex. Job done! Proper sex ed will = fewer teen pregnancies and stds.

Quoting P.S I'm pregnant ♥1:" Maybe like children in an orphanage.. eh I doubt it would work anyway. I have 2 sisters, 15 and 16 who ... [snip!] ... aware of how stressful and exhausting it can be, but that's not going to change a t eens mind. Thr y think they know it all.."

wow.. your idea is ridiculous.

Kids in orphanage are already too traumatized. Plus, it's cold-hearted to think it's totally acceptable to make them guinea pigs. I think the whole idea is stupid, in general. No one in their right mind would volunteer their children.

Taking care of another person's baby for a week is nothing compared to taking care of your own baby for life. Yes, it's harder. Nothing can even compare. But the love if you feel for your child is completely unconditional and you see everything in a different way. These kinds of shows don't teach anything.. To be honest.

Why only teens? I know a hell of a lot more adult "women" who can't take care of their children. The teens I know are all amazing mothers.

It should be mandatory for all women to take parenting classes. Men as well for that matter.

Quoting Amor. ♥:" Why only teens? I know a hell of a lot more adult "women" who can't take care of their children. The ... [snip!] ... I know are all amazing mothers. It should be mandatory for all women to take parenting classes. Men as well for that matter."

I don't agree it should be mandatory to take parenting classes.. But I do agree with what you say. There's so much awful things being said about teen moms when, in reality, all the ones I know are amazing moms, and I know many grown-up people that are just plain stupid when it comes to raising their kids. There's so much judgement related to teen parenting... gosh.

Quoting ♥ inês:" I don't agree it should be mandatory to take parenting classes.. But I do agree with what you say. There's ... [snip!] ... that are just plain stupid when it comes to raising their kids. There's so much judgement related to teen parenting... gosh."

     

I think everyone of all ages should take a parenting class.

I don't think it'd matter. Idk how the plastic babies given at your school but the plastic babies at my school were worse than LO ever was. All I had in mind was just "three more days..two more days..last day." Not really like, "Oh, I'm not gonna get pregnant now." Get what I'm saying?

I said ten aged girls should take the class because the guys try to pressure the girls into sex and the girl should know what it feels like to have a child to take care of because if she gets pregnant she will have to take care of the baby by herself. Because the guy will only want sex he will not want to help with the child and ultimately it will be up to the girl to say NO.

Quoting Carla Orta:" I said ten aged girls should take the class because the guys try to pressure the girls into sex and the ... [snip!] ... Because the guy will only want sex he will not want to help with the child and ultimately it will be up to the girl to say NO."

okay, not only do you have NO idea if the girl would have to raise the baby all on her own...you don't know half of what you're talking about.
yes our sex education needs to change, horribly. but telling a girl, IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU WILL GET PREGNANT AND YOU WILL HAVE TO RAISE IT ALL ON YOUR OWN....is just not always reality and teenagers aren't always dumb. they know scare tactics. they need truth.