How did you handle it...

When you felt one of your SO's friends crossed the line? Did you address the person directly or just talk to your SO about it, were you able to be ok with them still being friends? Were they still friends afterwards?

To make a long story short, she has recently expressed that she is in fact in love with my SO. She has been very public about her feelings for him, but she is trying to make it seem as if the feeling is mutual. I just want to put the bitch in her place, but I dont want to come off as "the insecure bitch who doesnt want her boyfriend to have female friends", because its definitely not the case.

There is a HUGE difference between letting your hubs have chicks for friends, and letting some loony toons bish have some fake delusional relationship with him. You tell him he needs to set her straight, and you feel free to inform her that what she is doing is inappropriate.

MoSt definitely put her in her place .

I've never been in that situation, but I'd talk to my DH about his feelings towards/ intentions with this girl. I trust my DH, so I'd probably just lay back and let them continue their friendship. If I felt threatened and I felt that their friendship wasn't that important, I'd ask my DH if he could cut ties with the girl for my comfort. I would NEVER EVER EVER in a million years TELL my DH he had to stop being friends with someone. But in a case where it is a female who "is in love with him," I think it would be appropriate to ASK (not tell him) to end the friendship. Good luck, that's tough!

Quoting Bandera Roe:" MoSt definitely put her in her place ."

She refuses to have a direct private conversation with me...she is much more interested in giving FB and Twitter a show. I'm too ignorant to even begin that kind of battle with her.

Put her in her place. She is being extremely disrespectful!!

Talk to your partner... it's his friend & not really yours, right? idk I think it screams insecurity when chicks 'put bitches in their place' unless the chick is literally psychotic.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" Talk to your partner... it's his friend & not really yours, right? idk I think it screams insecurity when chicks 'put bitches in their place' unless the chick is literally psychotic. "

She isn't my friend in the slightest, but its not a matter of security, its a matter of respect. My two best friends are male, and they would never disrespect him the way she is doing me.

Quoting That Black Kid™:" She isn't my friend in the slightest, but its not a matter of security, its a matter of respect. My two best friends are male, and they would never disrespect him the way she is doing me."

I know it isn't a matter of security, but that's what it comes across as IMO. Your guy is the one who should be telling her she is overstepping her boundaries, & possibly cut ties with her.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Put her in her place. She is being extremely disrespectful!!"

And thats what it comes down to. Respect is earned, and as someone who claimed to be a close friend of his I trusted and respected her. I respected the fact that she has known him for a long time and that they have had alot of experiences together....but smurf this.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" I know it isn't a matter of security, but that's what it comes across as IMO. Your guy is the one who should be telling her she is overstepping her boundaries, & possibly cut ties with her."

You're right...I'm going to try to sit back and let him handle it. Im just so damn confrontational I usually have to consult other people to make the logical side of me come out, Im too old to react the way I used to.

I've talked to my dh, then he was just my bf, but I made him check her, he did it in front of me, after when she tried putting it out there again like he was just doing it to throw me off, I told him he was going to let her rip us apart, he deleted her of myspace (yes this was that long ago)
When we decided to have baby, get married ect. I invited her to everything but she didn't come   no idea why... lol

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" I've talked to my dh, then he was just my bf, but I made him check her, he did it in front of me, after ... [snip!] ... ago) When we decided to have baby, get married ect. I invited her to everything but she didn't come   no idea why... lol"

Yeah...she isnt invited to my wedding anymore. The things that she has said the past couple weeks just make me feel like she is one of those people that say they are happy for you but are plotting on ruining your happiness the whole time.

Quoting That Black Kid™:" You're right...I'm going to try to sit back and let him handle it. Im just so damn confrontational I ... [snip!] ... I usually have to consult other people to make the logical side of me come out, Im too old to react the way I used to."

lol oh I don't blame you... I'm sure I would still be pissed the smurf off & want to go off screaming at her...   but... ehh seems kind of trashy. although appealing. XD