Would you move?

I've been a nanny for this family for a year and a half now, it's a great fit for my 4 year old daughter and I, and the little girl (also 4) is her best friend. They just took a job in Indiana and will be moving in the next 2-3 months from where we live in Texas. They offered and we have been seriously discussing moving with them. There are a few things holding me back; the fact that my daughter's father lives 4 hours away from us right now and has been a unreliable factor in her life up to this point but right now we are getting along amicably and when I bring her to him he's wanting to hang out often and I would hate to be the thing that moves and ruins that. Also, I'm concerned that bringing my daughter into a situation where we spend all day at a big house with her best friend who has a well off family and "stuff" then coming home to a small apartment which is all I could afford, would create some sort of complex for her in life. What's your opinion on a situation like this?

if its a good deal and money then i would go.. your daughter is gonna start school soon so she wouldnt really be at that house "all day" and just explain that its your job at the big house. and make your home as comfortable as possible with love and stuff..

its not the size of the house that makes a home. its the amount of love in a house that makes it home.

Quoting Deborah B.:" if its a good deal and money then i would go.. your daughter is gonna start school soon so she wouldnt ... [snip!] ... with love and stuff.. its not the size of the house that makes a home. its the amount of love in a house that makes it home."

i totally agree  

In terms of you moving.. Do you have a contract with them? Or is it all just verbal? I know things are great now but if something happene your be out tree unemployed and alone.

Also taking your daughter away from her dad isn't the best idea.

Quoting Deborah B.:" if its a good deal and money then i would go.. your daughter is gonna start school soon so she wouldnt ... [snip!] ... with love and stuff.. its not the size of the house that makes a home. its the amount of love in a house that makes it home."

So important to remember and stress while raising her on my limited salary until I finish school. The alternative is that they move and I'm left without a job or a job she will have to go to daycare/school while I work and alternatively she comes with me to work.

Quoting Monkey Nuts:" In terms of you moving.. Do you have a contract with them? Or is it all just verbal? I know things are ... [snip!] ... if something happene your be out tree unemployed and alone. Also taking your daughter away from her dad isn't the best idea."

It is all verbal right now because no definite decision has been made either way.
I agree, the relationship we have right now with him is the best it's been in a while. Does this mean he's accessing visitation? No. Calling her and seeming eager to talk? Yes. That's a big step and I'd hate to push it back any more.

On the other hand, this could be an amazing opportunity for our life and they want to put me in a place and help me finish college with her/ take turns doing pre-k drop off and babysit so I can have study time. Which is more help than I'd ever receive staying here and trying to graduate.

Quoting Mamabird Megan:" So important to remember and stress while raising her on my limited salary until I finish school. The ... [snip!] ... I'm left without a job or a job she will have to go to daycare/school while I work and alternatively she comes with me to work."

so far the only down side ive heard you say is her dad.. and there is always skype and visits later on.

Quoting Deborah B.:" so far the only down side ive heard you say is her dad.. and there is always skype and visits later on."

 

How far away will he be if you move? If his "visitation" with her is mostly by phone, you could do that from anywhere!