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he stayed for 5 years because it wasn't his time to go. I was told before that when a person is strong enough to pull through times they could have died its because they haven't gotten to do or see everything they wanted to see and do and when they finally pass its because they feel peace so they can rest in peace. I believe that too.

  I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great man.

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" he stayed for 5 years because it wasn't his time to go. I was told before that when a person is strong ... [snip!] ... wanted to see and do and when they finally pass its because they feel peace so they can rest in peace. I believe that too. "

He was as stubborn as they come, and it was gonna take more than e-coli, no kidney function and heart problems to take him down   I'm sad that he didn't get to meet my son, his great-great grandson.
He lived a long life, and went the way he wanted to.. quietly and peacefully with no one around.

Quoting Blah:"   I'm sorry for your loss. He sounds like a great man. "

He was   He sort of adopted mum as his daughter cos her dad wasn't around, he was really her grandfather. raised three kids, a granddaughter, and helped raise me. Worked hard, played hard. He was awesome  

Quoting ℐ+ℳ=£:" He was as stubborn as they come, and it was gonna take more than e-coli, no kidney function and heart ... [snip!] ... his great-great grandson. He lived a long life, and went the way he wanted to.. quietly and peacefully with no one around."

I know how that is my grandpa is going through a lot of that right now and has been for years and they swore he was going to die 3 years ago and still going not at much or fast as he use to, but still going. He may not get to hold your son, but always remember he watches over you so he does get to see your sweet little boy!
It's good he went the way he wanted to not everyone can say that.

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" I know how that is my grandpa is going through a lot of that right now and has been for years and they ... [snip!] ... watches over you so he does get to see your sweet little boy! It's good he went the way he wanted to not everyone can say that."

Thanks hun   This is our first christmas without him, and coming up to the one year anniversary of his death   It's gonna be a hard one.

Quoting ℐ+ℳ=£:" Thanks hun   This is our first christmas without him, and coming up to the one year anniversary of his death   It's gonna be a hard one."

your welcome   if you need someone to talk to i'm here for you! It would have been my baby's 2 birthday on the 15th and it may not be the same since it was a miscarriage, but i know the feeling of loss so i am always here if you need to talk.

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" your welcome   if you need someone to talk to i'm here for you! It would have been my baby's 2 birthday ... [snip!] ... and it may not be the same since it was a miscarriage, but i know the feeling of loss so i am always here if you need to talk."

Thank you   Same to you! I'm on here like 90% of the time lol. I'm bfing constantly so don't like to leave the house  
And a miscarriage is just as much a loss as a death is IMO. It's just different because you're losing the possibility instead of the person, KWIM? I had a miscarriage a few years ago and at the time I was partying and drinking heaps and sort of pushed it to the back of my mind.. but now I have DS and I think about what that baby could have been and I'm kicking myself for how lightly I took it at the time. it affects me a lot more now than it did when it actually happened  

Quoting ℐ+ℳ=£:" Thank you   Same to you! I'm on here like 90% of the time lol. I'm bfing constantly so don't like to ... [snip!] ... I'm kicking myself for how lightly I took it at the time. it affects me a lot more now than it did when it actually happened  "

your welcome   yes so am i lol i just don't have much of a life right now so i am on here too much for my own good. yes i know exactly what you mean! Some people don't see it at the same as a death and i didn't want to offend you thats why i put it how i did, but i know exactly what you mean everyone handles things different dont beat yourself up about it because at the time thats how you handled it. Drinking and partying does a lot to your mind at the time. It affects you a lot more now because you have your son and your are clean minded.

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" your welcome   yes so am i lol i just don't have much of a life right now so i am on here too much ... [snip!] ... does a lot to your mind at the time. It affects you a lot more now because you have your son and your are clean minded."

I never used to see it as a death.. I wasn't far along, and I'd only found out a few days before I began miscarrying so I wasn't attached to the pregnancy yet. I'd already decided I was going to keep it though   Now I see it for what it was, the same as what my son was at that stage and it makes me sad. Always wondered if my drinking or the other dumb smurf I was doing caused it  

Quoting ℐ+ℳ=£:" I never used to see it as a death.. I wasn't far along, and I'd only found out a few days before I began ... [snip!] ... my son was at that stage and it makes me sad. Always wondered if my drinking or the other dumb smurf I was doing caused it  "

Sometimes it just happens and it sucks, but never blame yourself. I learned that not too long ago and its hard not to blame yourself sometimes i still do it, but i am getting better at not blaming myself. I try to think positive about it and sometimes that's hard especial around the holidays and January 15th.

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" Sometimes it just happens and it sucks, but never blame yourself. I learned that not too long ago and ... [snip!] ... not blaming myself. I try to think positive about it and sometimes that's hard especial around the holidays and January 15th. "

I'm really sorry about your loss   Life sucks, and smurffy things happen to good people and it's not fair. I hope the holiday isn't too hard on you  
I gotta catch some zz's but I'll give you a PM in the morning sometime   Enjoy your christmas eve! x

Quoting ℐ+ℳ=£:" I'm really sorry about your loss   Life sucks, and smurffy things happen to good people and it's not ... [snip!] ... isn't too hard on you   I gotta catch some zz's but I'll give you a PM in the morning sometime   Enjoy your christmas eve! x"

thanks! i am sorry about your loss too! Remember if that wouldn't have happen where would you be today? The holidays weren't too bad lately it was around thanksgiving, but it has been a hit and miss type feeling lately. I should get to sleep too! ya PM me any time!   enjoy your Christmas!

Aww hun im so sorry