I am so pissed right now

I swear this will be my last post of the day....


I can't stand my son's father. It's freaking 35 degrees out and he REFUSED to put the carseat cover on the baby. He has a running-nose. Why am I the bad guy?

"Do you want him to swear in the car when it's 70 degrees in there?"

If he is so worried about that then take the carseat cover off when he is in the car...he shouldn't be uncovered in the cold even if it's seconds. I say, "Just because you are wearing flip flops doesn't mean he shouldn't have something on."

He then tells me to shut my mouth. I say "excuse me?" and he says "Keep your bottle" (meaning my breast milk)...I say, "no steve, take the breast milk?" he takes it...I say "Don't dump it." and he tells me to go smurf myself.


I really wish the court cared more bout the way the father talks to the mother in front of the baby. I know for a fact he isn't going to stop when our son is old enough to repeat this kind of smurf and now I have to worry about it taking an emotional effect on him....I wish he would just go away...should I call my lawyer again and go back to court to minimize his time? Or would it be a waste? We were already mandated to take coparenting classes and the paralegal at my law office says that if he continues to talk abusive to me that it is technically a violation.


help

<blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" I swear this will be my last post of the day.... I can't stand my son's father. It's freaking 35 degrees ... [snip!] ... and the paralegal at my law office says that if he continues to talk abusive to me that it is technically a violation. help"</blockquote>



Record the conversations is my best advice

Why wouldnt you just put a blanket on the car seat? Then dad could have taken it off in the car. Sounds like hes irritated that youre always trying to tell him what to do and how to do it.

What the smurf...

Sounds like the problem lies with him.

Quoting Amberchik78:" Why wouldnt you just put a blanket on the car seat? Then dad could have taken it off in the car. Sounds like hes irritated that youre always trying to tell him what to do and how to do it."

Whats the difference between a carseat cover and a blanket? they can both me removed.

He does sound like he has an anger issue and he definitely should not be talking to you in front of your kid that way.

However, you're probably triggering by nitpicking at him about little things. His reaction is inappropriate but you have to choose your battles. The baby is not going to die, or even get sicker, if he's exposed to cold air for a couple seconds, especially if you have him dressed warm, which I'm sure you do.

Quoting Supafly★:" He does sound like he has an anger issue and he definitely should not be talking to you in front of your ... [snip!] ... get sicker, if he's exposed to cold air for a couple seconds, especially if you have him dressed warm, which I'm sure you do. "

I know I am anal about that especially when it's very windy. he apparently cannot wear a jacket with a carseat so I like to make sure he is kept warm even if it's a few seconds. I don't see why it had to be a fight for him to put it since it takes two seconds...but I am more concerned with my child being exposed to that kind of language, anger, and dynamic between his parents. This needs to stop.

Cold air doesn't cause or make sickness worse, not without prolonged exposure. I've never used a carseat cover in my life and many of them (not all) violate carseat safety regs, so I just use a blanket and tuck it around baby as best I can.

Record the abusive language and give it to your lawyer/case worker.

My friend insists on making a police report.

A carseat cover usually violates codes for the actual seat. Same with coats. Use a light blanket. Not a huge deal. As for the breastmilk, why would he dump it? THAT would be something I'd freak out on. Especially if I never wanted my kid to have formula. Dad shouldn't get a say in that really.

It never hurts to make a paper trail so yes I would call your lawyer and talk to them cause he has no right to talk like that and its not fair to your baby to have to see that even if he doesnt yet realize whats going on it could still effect him in the long run. My son was 9 months old when me and his father split and he is 3 now but if I tell him to do something like pick up his toys he will tell me to shut up which is what his father used to do.

Quoting Peppa pig:" I know I am anal about that especially when it's very windy. he apparently cannot wear a jacket with ... [snip!] ... concerned with my child being exposed to that kind of language, anger, and dynamic between his parents. This needs to stop."

Most guys don't think "wow, it's cold out, the baby is probably cold too without a blanket," they only think about themselves. It seems absurd to us as mothers but it's just a different mentality. If he's anything like my sons' father he'll get pissed off and not cover him or give him the breast milk out of spite - not caring about the child. It sucks.

Quoting Loveislouder:" A carseat cover usually violates codes for the actual seat. Same with coats. Use a light blanket. Not ... [snip!] ... be something I'd freak out on. Especially if I never wanted my kid to have formula. Dad shouldn't get a say in that really."

He was refusing to take it and walked off with the baby telling me to "keep my bottle" ...so yeah that pissed me off..I told him not to dump it and that's when he said to go smurf myself.


Has he given my son formula in addition to ten ounces of breast milk when he had him for four hours? yes...do i think he dumps my breast milk when he gets pissed at me? yes...do i have proof? no.


This is the carseat cover i use: http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4033679&CAWELAID=689623392&pla=plab&cagpspn=pla

They told me at the child safety class I took that this is safe...the bundleme isn't, however. Then again they failed to mention that jackets are unsafe. I even brought it up to my pedi and she didn't seem to have any knowledge of this.

Quoting Peppa pig:" He was refusing to take it and walked off with the baby telling me to "keep my bottle" ...so yeah that ... [snip!] ... failed to mention that jackets are unsafe. I even brought it up to my pedi and she didn't seem to have any knowledge of this. "

How long does he have your LO at a time?