Child support *vent

I figured this was the best place to put this.

Well BD has been really lazy about paying child support lately (though he comes to pick up DD from visitation every time in new smurf like clothes or cars ect). I mentioned something about it last time he picked up DD (the child support being behind that is not his new smurf) and he started shushing me because he didn't want my mom and sister to hear. Well I talked to him AGAIN about it later and he said he called child support enforcement and they said he was caught up and everything with the payment he sent in. Well it was the biggest payment he had sent in a while but I went back and did the math and he is $750 behind still. That is just under 3 full months and JUST enough to keep them from garnishing his wages. Ummmm... caught up means paying all that is owed not just enough to keep your ass out of trouble. What an ass. Damn straight I am going to bring it up again in front of my family and this time I am going to be loud about it. I hate dead beat dads. The LEAST you can do is pay the damn child support.

That would annoy me  

That would annoy the smurf out of me too but I wouldn't consider him a dead beat.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" That would annoy me  "

The worst part is him lieing about it. Like I am to smurfing stupid to know better. 
In fact I am going to say next time I see him " So Tim I have a question for you. Do you think I am stupid? Do you think I do not know how to add? Or that I don't know how to check a bank statement? Or are you just so stupid you can't add or check a bank statement?" 

Quoting Brandie:]:" That would annoy the smurf out of me too but I wouldn't consider him a dead beat."

He didn't pay child support at all until they started tracking it by making him pay directly through child support enforcement even though it was court ordered before that. And he had almost no involvement with dd until she was 2. Then he saw her only when he was single and trying to sleep with me until she was 4. Now he is late every time he is suppose to pick he up and flakes out all the time. And the list goes on.

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" He didn't pay child support at all until they started tracking it by making him pay directly through ... [snip!] ... me until she was 4. Now he is late every time he is suppose to pick he up and flakes out all the time. And the list goes on. "

Ah. Well in that case haha. What a douche nugget.

He is lucky my husband is NOT a dead beat dad he has a child with another woman and they orginally had a verbal agreement and we/he stuck to it, then she decided that it was not good enough and filed for "real" child support and they take it RIGHT out of his check he is in no way behind but they dont give the dads a chance around here to pay they take it out each paycheck!!! Maybe see if thats an option where you live some places ask the moms how they want it done

Quoting newmommie12:" He is lucky my husband is NOT a dead beat dad he has a child with another woman and they orginally had ... [snip!] ... they take it out each paycheck!!! Maybe see if thats an option where you live some places ask the moms how they want it done"

I did ask. they said they will start taking it out when he is 3 months behind and he has until the 28th of that 3rd moth to pay something. they are bad about it here. there is a guy in the jail my DH bonds people out of all the time that is in there for being $30,000 behind on child support before they arrested him and another that was $18,000. the only good thing now is that they have to pay that all up front before they can even be bonded out.

Imagine being 18k behind smh... That's how much my 4 year olds dad is... We finally have a court date jan 9th... Pay or jail was the stipulation... And he has yet to pay what he is suppose to.. 580 a month.. Dam shame... Yet he comes to get her faithfully but has new cars and ish.. Is married and has a 2 year old... I don't complain because he comes and gets her but i couldn't take it... I had to call and bitch some ppl out at the attorney generals office.. Cause they haven't done smurf... And it took forever for me to get this far... Hell daycare is 600 a month... That would be awesome to have that load taken off my back... I so understand what u mean.. Lol

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" I did ask. they said they will start taking it out when he is 3 months behind and he has until the 28th ... [snip!] ... that was $18,000. the only good thing now is that they have to pay that all up front before they can even be bonded out."

Thats bs I think they should take it out period. When the court 1st ordered my husband they where taking out like 500$ a month we had to go down to FOC to find out where in the hell they got thier numbers from because it was HALF of what he was making in a month. They where all like oh opps we never put your income in or that u have another child. UH DUH!! lol but him and baby momma have an agreement to an amount every month that dont hurt us so much and that we can keep our roof over our head on our car becuase we couldnt even afford anything at 1st. But that BS they should pay attention thats whats going on and make him pay out of his check!!!

Quoting newmommie12:" He is lucky my husband is NOT a dead beat dad he has a child with another woman and they orginally had ... [snip!] ... they take it out each paycheck!!! Maybe see if thats an option where you live some places ask the moms how they want it done"

that's how mine is. I have a debit card & they just take it automatically out of his pay check

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" He didn't pay child support at all until they started tracking it by making him pay directly through ... [snip!] ... me until she was 4. Now he is late every time he is suppose to pick he up and flakes out all the time. And the list goes on. "

Then dont even involve him in the kiddos life, dont take his money. Be done wit him. Why deal with a loser that doesnt even give a damn?

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Then dont even involve him in the kiddos life, dont take his money. Be done wit him. Why deal with a loser that doesnt even give a damn?"

Because i am court ordered to deal with him that is why. His family pushed him to fight for some kind of rights when we went to court so he got supervised visitation 2-4 hours once a week. he doesn't always take advantage of the fact that he has visitation rights but when he does I have no choice but to let him see her.

Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Because i am court ordered to deal with him that is why. His family pushed him to fight for some kind ... [snip!] ... always take advantage of the fact that he has visitation rights but when he does I have no choice but to let him see her."

And I get if he WANTS to be there, you have to let him. But if he doesnt, then why even push? Why ask? If he doesnt ever want to support/see the kiddo then go back to court to say "Hey its been 6 months since hes even seen the kid" or "He sees our child once every 3 months and he doesnt even try to pay, its messing with my kids head, do something!" And they will take away his visitation because he clearly doesnt want to be there. The good thing Ive seen come from that is the mother is less hassled because she doesnt have to push for him to see the kid and if he does become detrimental to seeing the child they will take away visitation (no hurting the kid) but make him pay. I have a different view on making him pay.... but at least the kiddo wont have to see a halfass dad.

So I would make note of when he pays, calls, sees the kid, what he buys, etc... but dont push for him to see or do anything. Let it be on his own accord. And if he doesnt do anything, take him to court to have his rights stripped down more. If he doesnt care, why should you?