re: Engagement Rings

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:</b>" That's one of the reasons SO and I ... [snip!] ... raising him like his own. I figure if we can get past a heroin addiction and an 8 month break up we can get through anything  "

Aww so excited for your up coming wedding.  
Stories like that make me realize just how unacceptable
my ex husband's refusal to give up drinking was.
Heroin addiction is one of the hardest to over come, with a high rate of relapse in users. but yet your soon to be husband put that behind him because he realized what is really important in his life.
My now two year old daughter is my ex husband's and therefore not Drew's. but he still accepts her as his own. Spends hours playing with her and teaching her stuff on flashcards. When she first started calling him daddy, he'd correct her. but since my ex hardly comes around he has stopped bothering. She usually calls him by his name, but when she slips up he says nothing now.
He was badly abused and neglected as a child, and was told by a doctor that his low sperm count made it unlikely he'd ever get anyone pregnant. He was tested after his ex and him were together 5 years and their repeated TTC yealded no results. So my daughter's love for him warms his icy heart he says. and he's over the moon that that doctor was clearly mistaken.
Is your son's biological father out of the picture? One of those rebound situations best forgotten? It's so awesome your soon to be hubby is raising him as his own. Just like my step dad has done with my 10 year old sister since she was 9 months old.

Quoting Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" I feel like my situation is so similar. ... [snip!] ... We got so much back in taxes the yyear we got married   so much. But we also had a second child added on."

My parents have two children plus other family member dependents. Together they probably make about a hundred bucks a year together before taxes, so I don't know why tax time screws them so hard. They haven't gotten a tax return in at least two years. Had to pay in fact.

My engagement ring is 150 years old and a family heirloom. Its a gold band with three diamonds set into the top of it. It's quite old fashioned (Victorian) and clunky, but I could afford one of our own.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" Aww so excited for your up coming wedding.   Stories like that make me realize just how unacceptable ... [snip!] ... to be hubby is raising him as his own. Just like my step dad has done with my 10 year old sister since she was 9 months old."</blockquote>


Idk who the dad is. I had a steady fwb over the entire 8 months we were separated, and right when I got pregnant I had a one night stand. We're waiting until he's here to find out but only the one night stand guy is involved and wants to know. The fwb freaked when I told him(aka became a complete psychotic smurf) and is adamant it's not his. I haven't talked to him since so I'm kind of hoping he just stays away.
Either way my son will have my fiance's last name and basically be raised by him anyway.

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" Aww so excited for your up coming wedding. ... [snip!] ... I'm kind of hoping he just stays away. Either way my son will have my fiance's last name and basically be raised by him anyway."

Based on your due date, do you think either guy has more of a chance than the other of being the father?
Sounds like your fiance really turned his life around and became a stand up guy. Takes a real man to step up like he is doing.
My step dad is the same way. Legally adopted my 10 year old sister when she was very young. My sister doesn't even know he isn't her dad, and I honestly feel it's best that way because her biological dad was a piece of momma's boy garbage. They were together on and off for 10 years (My sister and I are 11 and a half years a part in age) so I did know her biological dad and she is missing nothing by not knowing him.
I say if your FB is the dad you stick him with child support and he haveth no contact other wise lol.

Man I wish my ex husband wasn't homeless so he could just pay and go away. but alass, no.