Quoting Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" I said Not Sure. SO and I live together, share ... [snip!] ... Marriage is recognized by law though, you can't really be "basically" married, if youre not married."

Common law is recognized as being married by the government. I guess commonlaw could be considered "basically married" lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" Common law is recognized as being married by the government. I guess commonlaw could be considered "basically married" lol"</blockquote>



That's true, but that's not recognized everywhere. Or is it? I'm not sure  

Quoting Jennybananna:" I believe in commenting yourself to another person for life but I can understand why some would not want to make it a legal commitment. I think you can have marriage without the paperwork."

My thoughts too. My boyfriend is mad that I haven't married him yet and that I don't really want to. He even gets upset if I refer to him as my boyfriend and not fiancee. We were engaged, but broke up for a few months and when we got back together I never worn the ring, I believe he still has it. I just don't want it. No ring, not plan to get married, equal no fiancee in my book.

I believe marriage is a life commitment and he has already been divorced once. I am in a committed relationship and there are issues of distrust or dishonesty between us. I don't see what a piece of paper is going to prove.

I use to believe in it, until I saw the marriages around me and thought I don't want that kind of life. I am happy being in a relationship without being married.

Quoting Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" Common law is recognized as being married by the government. ... [snip!] ... "basically married" lol"</blockquote> That's true, but that's not recognized everywhere. Or is it? I'm not sure  "

I thought it was... but I don't actually know, lol

I'm married. So I guess I believe in it. But we were just fine before we were married as well. Nothing really changed. We just have a piece of paper and a couple pieces of metal now.

I mean it's not really a big deal IMO. We were committed before. But we got married to solidify the stability of our family (in the courts eyes) to get custody of DS.

And in all honesty, I enjoy calling DH my husband. It sounds so much better and less juvenile than calling each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend"

Quoting Mayhem.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" Common law is recognized as being married by the government. ... [snip!] ... "basically married" lol"</blockquote> That's true, but that's not recognized everywhere. Or is it? I'm not sure  "

There isn't here, people think there is but it hasn't been that way for years. Co-habiting couple still don't have the same rights, say through a break-up as married couples unless they have a prior written agreement.

I do believe on marriage & I believe there is one soul mate out there for me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ßεχ™:</b>" There isn't here, people think there is but it hasn't been that way for years. Co-habiting couple still ... [snip!] ... couple still don't have the same rights, say through a break-up as married couples unless they have a prior written agreement."</blockquote>

Ohhk. That's what I thought.

Quoting ßεχ™:" There isn't here, people think there is but it hasn't been that way for years. Co-habiting couple still ... [snip!] ... couple still don't have the same rights, say through a break-up as married couples unless they have a prior written agreement."

No common law in the state of California either.

I'd like to also say that I was in a "committed, loving relationship" when I was like 16. And I definitely wouldn't have compared that to marriage.

I think that the benefits of getting married (both legal and social) far out-weigh not getting married.

I think marriage in our society (North American for sure, maybe Western), is SO undervalued and misunderstood.

<blockquote><b>Quoting You're not my demographic:</b>" Read this as "Do you believe in Miscarriage?" at first. I think it's time for me to go home."</blockquote>




I did too honestly lol

As for the question: I believe in marriage. It happens, it isn't make believe. Just like when people say they don't believe in abortion. It happens and it isn't made up. What I think he means is he doesn't agree with marriage. I agree with marriage. It isn't just for tax purposes. People do it for medical consent and things like that. People do it for religion purposes. People do it just because they want to. Whatever the reason it is something I agree with

I believe in marriage. I believe in making that one final commitment to your partner. That oath to love, cherish, and support each other until death do you part. It's way different than just living with a boyfriend. At ANY time EITHER of you can just get up and leave and walk away. With a marriage, you can't do that. Not only is it a long process to get divorced, you've made an oath to each other and a commitment.



And as for the common law marriage, a lot of states now, is not recognized the same as a regular marriage in the eyes of the law AND in the states where it IS recognized, you have to be living together for upwards of 7 years before it's even legal.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" Common law is recognized as being married by the government. I guess commonlaw could be considered "basically married" lol"</blockquote>




We dont have common law here

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I think that the benefits of getting married (both legal and social) far out-weigh not getting married. ... [snip!] ... married. I think marriage in our society (North American for sure, maybe Western), is SO undervalued and misunderstood."

Agree with this completely.