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Quoting .:Stacy Renee:.:" Making a thread of this nature is going to open a door for people to tell you all the reasons that it's ... [snip!] ... Do what feels right for your relationship. Just because other people don't understand or agree doesn't mean it's not for you guys. Nobody else knows what goes on & feels right in your marriage, only what goes on & feels right for their marriage. Different strokes for different folks."

   
This, exactly.

OP, maybe all you need is a good date night to reestablish your relationship with your DH, because it doesn't look like he's going to be going for the whole open relationship thing from what you said. Maybe leave your LO at a family member's house for a few hours and really try to focus on YOU TWO.

Sometimes, if there's a low sex drive, there are other problems you need to look at other than just the sex.

Quoting doors33:" OP, maybe all you need is a good date night to reestablish your relationship with your DH, because it ... [snip!] ... on YOU TWO. Sometimes, if there's a low sex drive, there are other problems you need to look at other than just the sex. "

Honestly things are great between us. I just haven't been all into having sex lately. We have sex maybe once a week. We do need a date night, the neighbors offered to watch the boys on NYE for us so we can go out. They have a nice steak and shrimp supper at a place here in town on that night. I think people got the wrong idea thinking that our relationship is rocky, it really isn't. We have a great marriage.

Quoting bananapancakes:"   you should work on reading the OP. It's my sex drive is low, not his."

Well I apologize but you can keep your eye rolls to yourself. Its still a bad idea and I still think its just as stupid. *shrug*

Quoting Jas ♥:" Well I apologize but you can keep your eye rolls to yourself. Its still a bad idea and I still think its just as stupid. *shrug*"

Think what you want, fine by me. Like I said before to each their own. Idk why you got all fired up about it anyway.

Quoting bananapancakes:" Think what you want, fine by me. Like I said before to each their own. Idk why you got all fired up about it anyway."

Who's fired up? Lol. Its your marriage, not mine. I'm not against married couples having 3 somes or what have you. It doesn't effect me. But for you to solve your sexual problems with letting your husband have sex with other women is not a great solution. Like I said, its stupid.

It's not that I think you guys have a rocky marriage at all. This kind of thing happens all the time with long term relationships, and especially with a LO running around, it's even more common. Sometimes, there are just too many things going on around you to think about sex, and by the time you ARE thinking about it, it's just like... meh. Maybe later.

Sometimes just switching up your routine a little bit can help, which was why I was suggesting a date night or something. (Have fun by the way.   ) If that doesn't help, maybe buy some toys you guys could both use? I'm not big into toys myself, but they definitely have their purposes.

Quoting Jas ♥:" Who's fired up? Lol. Its your marriage, not mine. I'm not against married couples having 3 somes or ... [snip!] ... your sexual problems with letting your husband have sex with other women is not a great solution. Like I said, its stupid."

Yeah, I get that. I don't know why I put me having a low sex drive in there, it really doesn't bother him or anything. Idk, I just think I would be willing to have an open relationship with him. It's something I've thought for a while.

<blockquote><b>Quoting bananapancakes:</b>" Honestly things are great between us. I just haven't been all into having sex lately. We have sex maybe ... [snip!] ... night. I think people got the wrong idea thinking that our relationship is rocky, it really isn't. We have a great marriage."</blockquote>


I don't think once a week is low sex drive. I think that's being busy adults and parents. I think once a month would be low sex drive if it was like "eh I could take it or Leave it".

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bananapancakes:</b>" Honestly things are great between us. ... [snip!] ... being busy adults and parents. I think once a month would be low sex drive if it was like "eh I could take it or Leave it"."

True. Before LO we were having sex a few times a day every day. I so don't have the energy for that anymore lol.

I just think the whole idea is pointless. He's always going to be horny, and smurfing someone else one time won't change that. You're either in an open relationship or you're not. It sounds ridiculous to be like "oh you can smurf one person, once every 2 years, and you can't have a past with them, and I'm not going to participate." Just, why? lol

Quoting Rd.:" I just think the whole idea is pointless. He's always going to be horny, and smurfing someone else one ... [snip!] ... can smurf one person, once every 2 years, and you can't have a past with them, and I'm not going to participate." Just, why? lol"

Meh, cuz I'm weird lol.

Quoting Rd.:" I just think the whole idea is pointless. He's always going to be horny, and smurfing someone else one ... [snip!] ... can smurf one person, once every 2 years, and you can't have a past with them, and I'm not going to participate." Just, why? lol"

I guess it's more for the experience than anything.