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I think my SO and I are both jealous lovers, and for us we only really need each other. We've both been in different situations with 3 sums (mine was only partial... I walked out before anything really happened because I felt so wrong) and we've both agreed... it's just not for either of us.

Although, we did give each other celebrity passes. If he has a chance with Jennifer Love Hewitt, I can't get angry. And if I have a chance with Paul Landers, he can't get angry.

I'd say that's as close to an open relationship as we're getting. lol

Quoting Jas ♥:" No. I am married. If we wanted to screw other people, we would get a divorce."

This exactly.

Quoting Jas ♥:" I agree. If the thought of smurfing someone else turns him on and YOU can't even do that, its time to reevaluate your marriage."

Lol, it's not that really. He said that me just talking about it turned him on. Our marriage is great. Smurfing is one thing, making love is another. I'm not telling him to go get a girlfriend or something. To each their own KWIM?

Also it wouldn't be an all the time thing, just like once every 2 years or something.

Sex drive fluctuations are normal. I don't think the one without the issue should go out and get it somewhere else. Can't u guys do other stuff? Get some fun new stuff for the bedroom. Work to spice it up. When my sex drive goes low I really have to work to bring it up.

I couldn't handle the thought of my SO getting off to someone else. I couldn't hand the thought of what diseases he could bring back. Or what if he knocked her up? It's not worth it IMO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" I agree. If the thought of smurfing someone else turns him on and YOU can't even do that, its time to reevaluate your marriage."</blockquote>


Where exactly do you get she can't turn him on? All she said was she had a low sex drive.

Quoting bananapancakes:" Also it wouldn't be an all the time thing, just like once every 2 years or something."

lol. I'm sorry but that is just ridiculous.

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" I agree. If the thought of smurfing someone ... [snip!] ... your marriage."</blockquote> Where exactly do you get she can't turn him on? All she said was she had a low sex drive."

But smurfing someone other than his wife would all of a sudden heighten it? Okay. A low sex drive is a low sex drive. Its not having the desire to have sex with anyone.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" But smurfing someone other than his wife would all of a sudden heighten it? Okay. A low sex drive is a low sex drive. Its not having the desire to have sex with anyone."</blockquote>

  just because your wife doesn't want sex all the time doesn't mean u should want it with some one else instead. I feel like opening that can of worms only has a destiny for disaster.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" lol. I'm sorry but that is just ridiculous."</blockquote>




 
He has a hand. And there are stores that sell *ahem* things that help. If my husband was excited to screw other women, I'd be just as excited to hand him divorce papers.

Quoting Chick+6!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" lol. I'm sorry but that is just ridiculous."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... *ahem* things that help. If my husband was excited to screw other women, I'd be just as excited to hand him divorce papers."

Right. Oh his sex drive is low with OP but he is all about screwing other women. That says something about the OP and his feelings towards her, sexually. He has a low sex drive...with her. She should probably work on that.

Making a thread of this nature is going to open a door for people to tell you all the reasons that it's wrong... Lol

Do what feels right for your relationship. Just because other people don't understand or agree doesn't mean it's not for you guys. Nobody else knows what goes on & feels right in your marriage, only what goes on & feels right for their marriage.

Different strokes for different folks.

Quoting Jas ♥:" Right. Oh his sex drive is low with OP but he is all about screwing other women. That says something ... [snip!] ... about the OP and his feelings towards her, sexually. He has a low sex drive...with her. She should probably work on that."

She is the one with the low sex drive, not him.

Quoting .:Stacy Renee:.:" Making a thread of this nature is going to open a door for people to tell you all the reasons that it's ... [snip!] ... feels right in your marriage, only what goes on & feels right for their marriage. Different strokes for different folks."

Yeah, I figured I'd get peoples opinions even if I didn't ask for em lol. It's no biggie, this is a touchy subject. I don't think that it would cause problems in our marriage but ya never know. Idk he'd even do it anyway.

Quoting Jas ♥:" Right. Oh his sex drive is low with OP but he is all about screwing other women. That says something ... [snip!] ... about the OP and his feelings towards her, sexually. He has a low sex drive...with her. She should probably work on that."

  you should work on reading the OP. It's my sex drive is low, not his.