How to stop wanting my ex/baby daddy?

Sorry for the length.. Me and my ex were together for just over two years, we've been split up for 2yrs now. We tried talking after we split but jealousy issues caused more arguing. We've never gone longer then a month without talking and 8mnths after we split we decided to see each other secretly because we're happier without everyone else interfering. we did however go on a few double dates a few months back with my brother and his gf and they would always comment on how we still acted like a couple - holding hands, hugging etc.. and a lot of people know now because when his family guessed where he was going he never denied it. neither of us have been in a relationship since, well I've tried but I don't count 2wks as a relationship  
we were talking about how we would get back together when the time was right and I know for me he is the only one I've met that hasn't put me off in any way. even his faults I love. He got really big headed when I told him every one else I met were losers and he was too but I loved him lol we talked about being friends on multiple occasions but we just can't do it, it's too complicated and the fact that we still have feelings for each other makes that impossible. when I found out I was pregnant and he automatically assumed it wasn't his, stating that I have had boyfriends the whole time we've been seeing eachother (since the split) not true though, it took me a year to even look at another guy and it's been 5 months since I've been with anyone else. I really miss him and I think he;s missing me too because I woke up to a few messages from him but I don't know what to say anymore? I tried understanding how he must feel but the fact that he pretty much accused me of being a slut and a liar really hurt. I've been trying to stop wanting him for over a year now but I can't. I can forget about him for a week and then I suddenly miss him and whenever I tell him to leave me alone or vice versa he can't help himself either, he always messages me and we're back to talking like nothing happened.... What can I do? I want him to be apart of the babys life but I would like to find someone further down the line, for the past 5yrs he is the only one I've wanted to be with and honestly I hate that because so may guys are interested in me but I just can't see them as anything other then friends. Help??

It's too damn late to read that huge block of text, but I'm going to go with

1, stop sleeping with him
2, Stop acting like you're dating when you're not.

Same thing happened with me and my husband, we dated without anyone knowing and once our daughter was born he finally committed to me and only me. He even had a gf on the side so no one knew he was with me. We are now married and just had our second child together 2 days ago. And, we are the happiest we have ever been.
I hope everything works out for you.

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" It's too damn late to read that huge block of text, but I'm going to go with 1, stop sleeping with him 2, Stop acting like you're dating when you're not."

I agree. He's using you. Stop sleeping with the bastard. You sound like Chelsea from Teen Mom 2. He is doing whatever he can to tear you down so you don't think you're good enough for a healthy relationship. He can be in your baby's life without screwing you. You are the only one keeping You for moving on. For the sake of your child, please get over it.

He's not missing you, he's missing your pussy. He knows he can get it when he wants it from you so as long as you're giving it he's going to be "missing you".

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mother of 4  :</b>" Same thing happened with me and my husband, we dated without anyone knowing and once our daughter was ... [snip!] ... had our second child together 2 days ago. And, we are the happiest we have ever been. I hope everything works out for you."</blockquote>



Are you kidding me? He didn't have a gf on the side to keep people from knowin he was with you. He had a girlfriend and was smurfing you because you gave it up. And you married someone like that!? SMH

I know I need to get over him, does anyone read the post topic?????
I've tried everything, even meeting new people but they all just make me miss my ex. I've tried ignoring him, telling him to leave me alone, tried being just friends, tried forgetting him but nothing seems to work.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" It's too damn late to read that huge block of text, but I'm going to go with 1, stop sleeping with him 2, Stop acting like you're dating when you're not."</blockquote>




   

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tamara Jesse:</b>" I know I need to get over him, does anyone read the post topic????? I've tried everything, even meeting ... [snip!] ... tried ignoring him, telling him to leave me alone, tried being just friends, tried forgetting him but nothing seems to work. "</blockquote>




You have to actually stick with it. If you didn't stick with it (which you clearly didn't or he wouldn't have knocked you up) then you didn't try hard enough

Quoting Tamara Jesse:" I know I need to get over him, does anyone read the post topic????? I've tried everything, even meeting ... [snip!] ... tried ignoring him, telling him to leave me alone, tried being just friends, tried forgetting him but nothing seems to work. "

This is going to sound like I'm being a jerk but I'm completely serious. See a therapist. It sounds like you really self destructive behavior and a therapist might be able to help you over come it. It could be essential for the mental health of you and your baby.

It's easier said then done, We were became best friends when we met. It's not like we only see each other to have sex. He used to drive over an hour just to pick me up from the airport and drop me where ever I needed to go, He comes over to fix the cars (mostly my family members), sometimes we just lay there and talk or go out to movies and dinner - it's not all about sex.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tamara Jesse:</b>" It's easier said then done, We were became best friends when we met. It's not like we only see each other ... [snip!] ... cars (mostly my family members), sometimes we just lay there and talk or go out to movies and dinner - it's not all about sex. "</blockquote>




It is easier said than done but if you really want it to stop, you will. It's not THAT hard.

Quoting Tamara Jesse:" It's easier said then done, We were became best friends when we met. It's not like we only see each other ... [snip!] ... cars (mostly my family members), sometimes we just lay there and talk or go out to movies and dinner - it's not all about sex. "

Obviously, you don't want help if you are just going to defend him and name your baby after him. Why even ask? If you really wanted to get over him, you would make it happen, end of story.

<blockquote><b>Quoting RonniG:</b>" Obviously, you don't want help if you are just going to defend him and name your baby after him. Why even ask? If you really wanted to get over him, you would make it happen, end of story."</blockquote>




 

You're all just saying get over it and stop giving in, you're not giving any good tips on how to do that!!! FFS!