re: How to stop wanting my ex/baby daddy?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tamara Jesse:</b>" You're all just saying get over it and stop giving in, you're not giving any good tips on how to do that!!! FFS! "</blockquote>



Uh...yeah, we did. STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM.

That's all you can do. Find some dignity and stop giving in to him.

I did.. Get therapy! No joke!

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tamara Jesse:</b>" You're all just saying get over it and stop ... [snip!] ... Uh...yeah, we did. STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM. That's all you can do. Find some dignity and stop giving in to him."

Your answer is invalid. I haven't been there since oct so I think I'm doing pretty good in that area - Thanks

Exactly when did you stop sleeping with him? Before or after you found out you were pregnant?

Change your number or block his number just stop contacting him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tamara Jesse:</b>" You're all just saying get over it and stop giving in, you're not giving any good tips on how to do that!!! FFS! "</blockquote>




Stop talking unless it directly pertains to the child. Say NO. Not a hard concept

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tamara Jesse:</b>" Your answer is invalid. I haven't been there since oct so I think I'm doing pretty good in that area - Thanks"</blockquote>



A month isn't smurf. There are MARRIED couples that have sex less often than that, ha

Quoting Tamara Jesse:" Your answer is invalid. I haven't been there since oct so I think I'm doing pretty good in that area - Thanks"

Oh wow, two whole months. What willpower! Obviously you're soulmates if you've managed to keep your smurf in check for so long and you're still hung up on him!

Quoting Amanda[expecting #2!]:" Exactly when did you stop sleeping with him? Before or after you found out you were pregnant? Change your number or block his number just stop contacting him."

Before I found out I was pregnant. I've tried blocking his number but he uses other peoples phones to contact me when I don't text/call back. Changing my number doesn't help, I've done it a few times but he manages to get it off close friends of mine (his family - I met them years before I knew him so yeah)

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" Oh wow, two whole months. What willpower! Obviously you're soulmates if you've managed to keep your smurf in check for so long and you're still hung up on him!"

Go take your BS somewhere else, you're really starting to get on my nerve! I didn't ask to be struck down and belittled!! I asked for advice! "stop sleeping with him?" lady I've done that! 2 months is better then I have done in the past then you would know IM SmUrfING TRYING!!! 8 months of not sleeping with him didn't change a thing so get your mind off sex because that isn't what this is about!! So if you have nothing good to say DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!!

Quoting Tamara Jesse:" Before I found out I was pregnant. I've tried blocking his number but he uses other peoples phones to ... [snip!] ... it a few times but he manages to get it off close friends of mine (his family - I met them years before I knew him so yeah)"

If they can't respect your wishes and give him the number anyway then don't give it to them. It's that simple.

Quoting Tamara Jesse:" Go take your BS somewhere else, you're really starting to get on my nerve! I didn't ask to be struck ... [snip!] ... get your mind off sex because that isn't what this is about!! So if you have nothing good to say DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!! "

you've gotten advice and you just keep making excuses. You're the only one affected by it, so keep on smurfing him. Get an STD because he's just using you for pussy and then maybe you'll listen. good luck.

Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:" If they can't respect your wishes and give him the number anyway then don't give it to them. It's that simple."

I'm not even sure who he gets it from, nobody says anything. And I don't even text/call many people besides my mum, my bestfriend, A sister inlaw and some other family members and none of them like him so they don't talk to him at all... The only person I can think of is his cousin, but we don't want him knowing we talk because it'll cause trouble we'd rather avoid and she's made it clear she doesn't want him to know we've been keeping in contact til after we can do the dna test so he's not flipping at me for saying it's his

UGH!!! What's with you people and sex?? I've already said I'm not doing that!!! two months is better then nothing, It's progress! or should I invent a time machine and go back and stop myself from doing something that's already been done? have I said I was going to go jump in his bed? No I haven't! I'm asking how to stop missing him, how to stop wanting him back. Your "Don't sleep with him" advice is smurf. I went almost a year without sleeping with him and it didn't stop me from missing him. If sex was the only cause for all this trouble I wouldn't be in this position now would I?!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mother of 4  :</b>" Same thing happened with me and my husband, ... [snip!] ... knowin he was with you. He had a girlfriend and was smurfing you because you gave it up. And you married someone like that!? SMH"</blockquote>



Yep I married someone like that, god. You dont know my story so dont go around judging people. Sometimes everything isn't about sex. And you know what I was with my ex husband while I was pregnant mine and my now husbands kid. So yep judge me all you want cause you know everything!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tamara Jesse:</b>" UGH!!! What's with you people and sex?? I've already said I'm not doing that!!! two months is better ... [snip!] ... didn't stop me from missing him. If sex was the only cause for all this trouble I wouldn't be in this position now would I?! "</blockquote>



Its always hard to let someone go I've gone though it. And, once you have the baby its going to get harder for you. I would just sit down with him and let him know how you feel. If he wants to commit to you then you can move on and stop trying to forget him. If he dont then you can try and move on it will always be hard. It could take years and witb you guys having a child together it will be even harder cause now you have to see him for the child. If I were you I would sit down and talk to him I did it with my husband. And we have now been together for 3 years now and married for a year.