re: 7+ years between kids?

<blockquote><b>Quoting 04090510:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jalen's mommy:</b>" I'm the oldest out of my siblings, the next ... [snip!] ... in his stroller."</blockquote> O_O How old were your parents when they had you vs when they had your youngest sibling?"</blockquote>




I have a different dad than the three of them but my mom was 23 when she had me, then 30, 34, and 37 when she had them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jalen's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 04090510:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jalen's mommy:</b>" ...[snip!] ... I have a different dad than the three of them but my mom was 23 when she had me, then 30, 34, and 37 when she had them."</blockquote>

Crazy! That's cool that they all look up to you for advice, though - that probably helped when they felt like they couldn't turn to you guys' parents about stuff. Are any of them close to any of the others?

Quoting 04090510:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" My brother and I are almost 10 ... [snip!] ... a baby this coming May. He or she would be 4yrs younger than my eldest). The idea isn't pleasant to me, to say the least."

Yeah it bites, because we'll go YEARS and only see each other every 6 months and that's with him only 10 minutes away. And then it'll almost be like we've nearly mended our relationship and I'll almost feel like I have my brother back, and something else will go down. Like I posted my gender reveal on here, and someone recognized my sister in law, she works with her. Well then my aunt fell at their office, and this chick was gone so she asked what happened, and I told her. She ran her mouth to my SIL saying I said things I didn't, my brother, at 27 years old, runs to tattle to mommy about how horrible I am, I provide written proof with images of the entire thing, but I'm still a bad guy. THEN it comes out that right before I married my husband, he accused him of molesting my niece, his reason, because she started her period. Did he come to ME with these issues, or my husband? Nope, again ran to mommy.

My mother is closest to her oldest sister, and they're 14 years apart with five other siblings between them. They were much older when they became close, though. DH's mother and aunt are 10 years apart and MIL says her sister always annoyed her when they were younger and it wasn't until her sister was in college that they became good friends. My sister is 14 years younger than I but I can't really give a personal opinion because I hardly know her, her mother, or our father.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 04090510:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jalen's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 04090510:</b>" ... [snip!] ... helped when they felt like they couldn't turn to you guys' parents about stuff. Are any of them close to any of the others?"</blockquote>



Yeah, I love that they can come to me for advice. They're not really that close right now, they're 17, 13, and 10. The oldest two are kind of in their "teenage thing" and the youngest feels that they think he's too little to hang out with them  

My brother is 14 years older than me, and my sister is 10. I'm not close to either. I haven't spoken to my sister in good 8 years. My brother is just an smurf alcoholic.

My 2 brothers are 6 and 8 years apart from me. I always hated it because I wasn't close to them and we always annoyed each other. I'm still not close, my brother asked me how old I was today   then again... I don't know his age either haha

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Incognito*:</b>" I have a 4.5 year old and don't plan on having another child for at least another 2-5 years. Anyone else ... [snip!] ... Anyone else have a "big age gap" between their 1st and 2nd kids? Please share your experience, pros and cons. Thanks   "</blockquote>




My little sister & I are 7 years apart. We are very close now but when we were little I didn't really spend much time with her.

my DD is about to be 6 years old. we're not TTC but we're not TNTC.
imo a pro would be that you can have more quality time with each child. while one's in school you spend time with the baby. when your oldest is home from school you spend time with your oldest while the baby is napping/being content.
the con (to me) they may nto get along because of such a big age gap.

My kids are 10 years apart. My stepdaughter is like a little mom to we brother. It's very sweet and she is a big help.

My oldest is 6yrs 1 month and 10 days older then my middle. But my oldest is almost 10 yrs older then my youngest.

I love all the age gaps. The older ones were and are awesome older sisters always helping out etc....

Wouldn't have it any other way. Lol

Eh i know I'm kind of late but oh well, lol. My mama has six kids my oldest sister is 31, then bro is 28, next bro is 26, I'm 23, twins (boy girl) are 11. I never got along with my oldest sister, 8 year difference, until we co-pregnancied when I was 17 she was 25. Our 5 year olds are 3 weeks apart and now she is my best friend. I got along with my brothers fine, 5 and 3 year difference, still do. Unfortunately, our little brother and sister are treated more like niece and nephew because of the age difference (12-17 years) we all forget they are our siblings. I should also add that my older brothers never got along with our big sister until they were all out of younger teen years, I want to say they were around 16, 18, and 21. Pretty sure that was more of a brother/sister rivalry though. I preffer closer age gaps. My boys are 5, 2, and 5 months.

I have one brother 3 yrs younger and one 8 yrs younger. I wasn't super close to the youngest one growing up but I loved him just as much. We got really close the older he got. Now I have a child who will be 9 when my second is born (I couldn't have more sooner due to health issues) so I guess I'll get to experience this first hand and see how it goes! :S

There are nine years between my cousin and her sister and once my cousin hit 13-14 they grew apart. There not that close now but get along. My husband is 7 years younger then his older brother and they didn't get along at all growing up . The age gap was just to much there for awhile however there close now as adults .

There is 2 years between me and my sister and then my parents had a 'oopsie' and had my brother 11 years after i was born.   I don't feel very close to my baby brother at all. Not because I don't like him, but I don't feel like i grew up with him either. I was the babysitter and sometimes the authority figure and then I moved out when he was 6.

My younger sister and brother fought like cats and dogs. She had major issues with feeling like he was replacing her. She had been the baby for years and years before he was born. She was very upset.

I also think my mom had a harder time starting all over again. I mean he grew up with 2 older parents (40 and 45 when he was born) and they were over the whole running around and playing catch in the yard phase. They also seriously considered having another baby because he was basically growing up by himself, but my mom was 40 and pregnancy didn't sound like much fun.

I think that having a huge age gap isn't ideal, but sometimes we don't get to dictate how things play out. ;) I don't think your kids will hate it each other, but I think it's pretty likely that it will feel like you have 2 different sets of kids.