<blockquote><b>Quoting IDID-VBAC 12/09:</b>" I think everyones expectations are different, what may be unrealistic to one, wont be to another. What do you feel is an unrealistic expectation to your marriage?"</blockquote>




For him to once in a while wake up with the baby, to tell me what he's thinking, to not throw a fit like a five yo when he's mad, to come home and say thanks for watching the baby and cleaning the apartment instead of saying I expect him to do everything, to acknowledge that even though I have a desk job it's still stressful.

Quoting Just Emily  :" <blockquote><b>Quoting IDID-VBAC 12/09:</b>" I think everyones expectations are different, ... [snip!] ... instead of saying I expect him to do everything, to acknowledge that even though I have a desk job it's still stressful."

Those are not unrealistic expectations. You need to write every one of those down and sit down and talk with him about it. Writing it down will make sure you talk about everything you want to talk about.

<blockquote><b>Quoting IDID-VBAC 12/09:</b>" Those are not unrealistic expectations. You need to write every one of those down and sit down and ... [snip!] ... down and sit down and talk with him about it. Writing it down will make sure you talk about everything you want to talk about. "</blockquote>




He gets so defensive and always turns it around on me. We can never just talk its always an argument. Im hoping it's because we're both stressed. We hate where we live were stretched fincially, we have no support or help with ds to ever get a break or time away. We're moving in with my parents soon and I'm hoping that will give us a chance. Catch up on bills. Get away now and then to talk about our problems and relax. Move into a nicer place after we save a bit.

In a heart beat. Being married to my husband is everything, I expected, wanted and more. I get all excited even talking about it, if you can't already tell. (:

Dh and i have been married for only 9 months but so far it's been fantastic, somedays are better then other but all together we have an amazing relationship and I'm proud to say i'm his wife  

I have actually been married twice now. And I would do it all over again. In my first marriage I had Seth and Bailee and even before I married Alex I had Edward and I still wanted to marry him with all my heart. I know he would still marry his ex all over again because that is how we got Korben and I am so happy about that. All these kids together make my heart and without one of them I wouldn't be whole. And Alex is the part of me that helps protect my heart.

Quoting Just Emily  :" Knowing what you know now would you still marry dh? When it says happy now in the poll that is in reference ... [snip!] ... poll that is in reference to you being happy enough. Like I love dh I'm happy for the most part but it's not what I dreamed of."

No, I would not. She's caused me too much heartache.

Yes I would still marry my husband, he can be an ass sometimes but its more playful, well atleast for me it is lol. He is the perfect man for me and the most respectful and honest guy I have ever met. I am very proud to be his wife, ya we have our ups and downs but working through the downs is what makes our marriage stronger and I know I can talk to him about anything and everything and he will actually listen and give honest feedback. If your unhappy in a marriage then don't you think you should get out of it? Everyone deserves to be happy and know what true love feels like. The only reason you should stay in the marriage is if you both are happy and love eachother.

No I would not. It's a shame, but he is a different person than he is not. I really don't know him anymore.  

Quoting Mommy to 3 boys & 1 girl:" I'm still fully legally married to my husband but we've been apart for over a year. Knowing what I know ... [snip!] ... him. My current SO is a different story. I love him so much and know that it will work with him. I can't wait to marry him."

This exactly. I've been seperated almost a year. If I knew now what I know then I never would've married my husband in the first place. The only good thing out of that relationship was the girls. We were married almost 7 years. My SO now, totally different breed of person. I love him, and can't see myself anywhere else but with him.