how do i get him to listen??

My oldest is 5 and he's just a huge pain in the smurfing ass. He won't lay down by himself to go to sleep unless the TV is on and I don't want that. He's been like this for months. His brother can't sleep with a TV so I don't put it on. He SCREAMS when I put him to bed saying "i need you mommy!" and it makes me feel like crap. idk what to do anymore. He's just all out BAD for most of the day. He's driving me and my boyfriend crazy.

I don't really spank him but sometimes I lose my temper and do it. He doesn't care if I yell, spank, take things away...please someone help me

Mines te same way. They're old enough to understand and they're pushin limits to see what they can get away with. Just decide what the rules will be and the consequences. Explain them. And then DO NOT deviate away from them. As hard as it may be.

Don't cave?? Who cares if he screams? If u have to let the smaller one sleep in your room, eventually you will break him of this habit, also take his tv/cable out of his room that's what I did and now my kids know bed time is bedtime I usuuqly then there cable off at bedtime anyway they say they need the tv to sleep but don't need to be watching cartoons

I sit at the foot of my 4 yo bed until he falls asleep. He went from having to be in the wrap, bouncing and nursing while I paced and sang (around 10 months old) to being able to lay down with him, jiggle him and sing, to just cuddling, to just being in the bed, to now sitting on the end of the bed. Eventually I'm sure I'll be able to tuck him in and leave but its not worth fighting over it. My youngest just lays down with me and he's out.