Good touch, bad touch....help

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Since it is your child at risk I'd step in. The other child is in your care and if his mother as a problem with it then it is her problem. You job is to protect your child.

I would ley your sister handle the good bad touch conv. You can tell him that it is not ok to pull your sons pants down

I would be more conscerned about what is happening to that 7 year old to make him behave like that. He learned it from somewhere.

Quoting Misty Walls:" I would ley your sister handle the good bad touch conv. You can tell him that it is not ok to pull your sons pants down"

 

that would worry me that someone (adult or child) tried something. I was abused has a child and for me to read that, its like a red flag.

Quoting RonniG:" I would be more conscerned about what is happening to that 7 year old to make him behave like that. He learned it from somewhere."

      

I would keep it generic and just tell him that he can not pull anyone's pants down and no one should be pulling his down. If they do, yell 'no, stop' and tell a grown-up immediately. I would talk to your sister and ask her how she wants it dealt with. If you baby sit him a lot, I would have the talk with him, but only if his mom's okay with it.

Sounds like the 7 year old is being abused.

Poor kid, that doesnt sound right at all. I would urge your sister to have the talk and keep it light until then. But that's not normal, the 7 year old is getting it from somewhere or is doing it for another psychological issue (we had a similar experience happen with ex SO's son).

Quoting RonniG:" I would be more conscerned about what is happening to that 7 year old to make him behave like that. He learned it from somewhere."

!!!!!! same!!!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" I would keep it generic and just tell him that he can not pull anyone's pants down and no one should ... [snip!] ... him a lot, I would have the talk with him, but only if his mom's okay with it. Sounds like the 7 year old is being abused. "</blockquote>

I have little to no contact with the 7 year old. I do not know if he is. My sister has tried to talk to his mom and she said it was no big deal. My nephew I watch 5 days a week 6-9 hours a day. He is around my son a lot. I was the one to give my eldest niece the sex talk, our family kinda treats nieces/nephews the same as our kids. I still discuss everything with my sisters though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" I would keep it generic and just tell him that he can not pull anyone's pants down and no one should ... [snip!] ... him a lot, I would have the talk with him, but only if his mom's okay with it. Sounds like the 7 year old is being abused. "</blockquote>




Didn't OP say that it was her nephews friend who did the "massage" and now she's worried that her nephew might do the same to her son

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting -BLT-:</b>" I would keep it generic and just tell him that he ... [snip!] ... OP say that it was her nephews friend who did the "massage" and now she's worried that her nephew might do the same to her son"</blockquote>

That is what I meant. He hasn't done anything like that to my DS and hasn't shown any signs he has tried....but this only happened 2 days ago and he just opened up about the "massage" comment today. :/ I may be paranoid but I am just trying to make sure I do my best to stop this from happening with my DS.