Anyone know the law for new york state?

After five LONG years of court battles my DH is finally getting his kids overnight every other weekend (Friday 7 pm to Sunday 7 pm) Tomorrow is our first overnight visit. We text his ex and asked her to make sure their bags are packed and that they eat dinner before we get them. She said "I am not providing the clothes until the court says I have to. They are with you and that is your responsibility as is their homework" So we simply replied "Its our first visit, I dont have any clothes for them. Can you just send them with clothes and we will send them back. Also I am not picking them up until 7, can you make sure their homework is done, I don't want to spend the weekend doing homework." She keeps saying she isn't providing clothes and that she wont be doing their homework since we can do it here.
Now my question is does she have to provide the clothes until we can get some? Its three kids and I cant just go out and buy clothes seeing how we have no extra money to spend. I also don't even know their sizes as she refuses to tell us that as well.

In MI you have to send things and they have to send them back. But you should go get some cheap clothes for now she sounds like a bitch.

Quoting Sammi + Bailey *JAS08*:" After five LONG years of court battles my DH is finally getting his kids overnight every other weekend ... [snip!] ... clothes seeing how we have no extra money to spend. I also don't even know their sizes as she refuses to tell us that as well."

most of the time each parent is responsibleto povide for the kids while they are in their care.

if he's been fighting for 5 years.. he certainly had notice right

as far as homework..I doubt there ae laws addressing that. You have all weeend. You could make it a fight... and send them bck sunday without it done... or you can be the better people, act like parents... and jst help them do it while they are there

Hmm. I think, while she's being a bitch about it, she is not required to send clothes... but I could be wrong.

No, she doesn't need to provide anything, as far as I know. I used to supply everything for LO until everyone told me I was crazy and it wasn't my job, so I stopped.

Well she has to send them in something. If your broke then take them to the thrift store to get a few things. Idk about the homework thing

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" Well she has to send them in something. If your broke then take them to the thrift store to get a few things. Idk about the homework thing"</blockquote>




This

When the kids gets there bring them somewhere cheap and get some clothes for them (even though she's being a pain about it)

And for the homework, he should sit down and help his kids with homework, it part of the parenting package

Quoting Had my 10/10/10 baby!:" In MI you have to send things and they have to send them back. But you should go get some cheap clothes for now she sounds like a bitch."

She is. We plan on getting clothes for the next visit on January 4th but right now I literally don't have extra money for it nor will she tell us their sizes. We are asking her to do it this time and shes making life incredibly difficult. I just don't want them in the same clothes all weekend and I don't have anything close to fitting them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sammi + Bailey *JAS08*:</b>" She is. We plan on getting clothes for the next visit on January 4th but right now I literally don't ... [snip!] ... incredibly difficult. I just don't want them in the same clothes all weekend and I don't have anything close to fitting them."</blockquote>



Have you husband call his attorney. Sinceyour husband does not have 50/50 custody, i think she has to send clothes. Also, i would start asking for receipts from the CS.

Personally .... IMO .... Homework and proveiding clothing for you child its both parents responsability! So i feel you guys should of got some clothes in for these weekend visits ( You've had 5 yrs to save and buy) And homework is a good way of bonding with you child and seeing how there doing in there school work! So quit moaning and man up and let the Daddy do HIS job! Coz hes a lucky man tp get to spend time with his kids and the kids are lucky there dad was willing to fight for them

I would just try to make the best of it. It would really stink to have to pack overnight bags for 3 kids every other weekend as well as have their homework done and have them all fed by 7:00. Doing homework on the weekends is part of being a parent, as is buying them clothes, toothbrushes, etc. while they are with you. She shouldn't have to supervise and get all the homework done in time just so he can have fun with them all weekend.

That being said, she sounds like she's doing it on purpose. She could send clothes and stuff for them this first time.

We plan on having clothes for the next time they arrive but this week we have no extra money. Any money I would spend would make me short on the rent. Like I said its 3 kids. There is no reason she cant do it this ONE time. As far as their homework I mean they have four hours to do it before we get them. DH doesn't have the patience to sit there and do homework. I wouldn't mind helping them with it but if they have four hours before hand why cant they do it at home? Its not like we are picking them up straight from school.

Thank you all for your opinions. I just wish she wasnt such a bitch!

Quoting -BLT-:" I would just try to make the best of it. It would really stink to have to pack overnight bags for 3 kids ... [snip!] ... That being said, she sounds like she's doing it on purpose. She could send clothes and stuff for them this first time. "

exactly

Quoting -BLT-:" I would just try to make the best of it. It would really stink to have to pack overnight bags for 3 kids ... [snip!] ... That being said, she sounds like she's doing it on purpose. She could send clothes and stuff for them this first time. "

She is most definitely doing it on purpose. I don't have any problem feeding them dinner I just dont want them to be so hungry seeing as how its 40 minutes (without traffic) to even get back to my house. I have no idea what time they have lunch in school and they eat alot! I plan on having extra for them just in case but I feel 8/830 is a late time to eat  

Quoting Sammi + Bailey *JAS08*:" We plan on having clothes for the next time they arrive but this week we have no extra money. Any money ... [snip!] ... Its not like we are picking them up straight from school. Thank you all for your opinions. I just wish she wasnt such a bitch!"

if he doesn't have the patience to do homework with kids... why did he fight for more time with them? it's part of parenting.. as is providing for them.

how long have you known they were coming this weekend?

should have been prepared.

this is tough on her too... her kids are leaving for the first time for an entire weekend.