Need help..5 year old crying not wanting to go to school!!!

I have been having some issue with my kindergartner. She has been complaining since school started that it is boring. She is always a bear to get up in the morning, but usually by the time she gets on the bus she is fine.
A month or so ago she came to me saying 2 girls she has to sit with on bus 12 have been mean to her. I wrote the bus driver and she moved seats and now sits with a friend in seat 1. She has told me the girls are not mean to her anymore, and when my husband wants to pick her up from school she gets upset because she wants to ride the bus with her friends.
I had a cousin die last month and just last week my husband’s grandpa died after loosing a battle with cancer.
he teacher called me last Thursday I think, saying that she was crying and saying she misses her mommy and daddy. She said she also told her that her grandpa died. I talked to her and she seemed fine.
Since then she has been crying at bedtime and in the morning not wanting to go to school. She just keeps saying she misses mommy and daddy when we are not with her. She says stuff like "When I am at school I miss you so much my heart breaks in half" and "I just miss you so much because you take such good care of me". She has not said anything about the girls on the bus being mean anymore. I am unsure what is causing this. Death in the family, bullying, maybe she heard from kids at school about the shooting in CT. I have not mentioned it at all because if she hasn’t heard about it I don’t want to bring something more up for her to worry about.
I talked to her a few times this week. She says she has always been a happy kid at school, and just the past week seems whinny and kind of like she doesn’t feel good. I took her to the Dr on Tuesday and they did not find anything wrong with her. They suggest I go to a grief counselor. I am not sure if this is a grief related thing, or related to school. She was fine yesterday morning when she left the house, but then informed me last night that she cried on the bus and a little in the morning because she missed us.
We have been trying our best this week to keep her on a set schedule, and sending her to bed at 8 instead of 9 since that was what the Dr suggested. It doesn’t seem to be helping.
Any suggestions or positive expierences you ahve had are greatly appreciated..this is just breaking mine and my husbands hearts.

awwwww. what she said about her heart breaking made tear up. I wish had godo advice for you, but I dont. Maybe she will feel better after christmas break and the vibe gets a little more cheery and stuff : ) good luck

I don't have any advice, but what she said about missing you breaks my heart too   I don't think talking to a grief councelor would be a bad thing?

I would be worried about bullying. Either that or something else is going on that you dont know. Also if she insists on the reason she doesnt want to go is because its boring, maybe shes not being challenged enouggh

so sorry your little sweetpea is going through this. I agree talking to a grief counselor would be a good idea. Im not an expert or anything but maybe she is scared something is going to happen to you or dad if shes not with you. Even if you dont have your daughter see the grief counselor maybe you could just talk to one and have them give you suggestions on how to explain grandpas passing in a way that doesnt scare/confuse her. good luck!!

I don't have much advice but my b/f's daughter has been saying the same thing about missing her mommy when she's gone and stuff. She's 6 and my friend says she does it a lot. I even babysat her a few nights ago and she started crying saying she wanted her mommy and I said why and she said because I miss her so much lol. Maybe it's just a clingy stage she's going through?

Maybe with the recent deaths its making her realize *mommy and daddy* aren't going to be there 1 day... i
I only say this because my dad and grandma died when I was 3ish, in same year, I was about 7ih when my great grandma died and I was old enough to remember what was happening, that's when I became terrified of dying, I thought about it all the time, about my death and my mothers... I developed ocd around. 7ish to *help* me not die... it sounds off but that's pretty much the *jist of what I went thru,

I was like this in private till I was 10ish then my mom got a bf, and I flipped, they finally put me into counseling, they figured since I was so young I hadn't grieved the deaths of my dad and grandma... I remember it being a huge help then...

I still have ocd, and a lot of nervous system issues that I struggle with, but I would prob have these anyways since on my dads side *batsmurf crazy* runs in the fam...

I would put her in counseling...

Quoting Bennett092405:" I have been having some issue with my kindergartner. She has been complaining since school started ... [snip!] ... suggestions or positive expierences you ahve had are greatly appreciated..this is just breaking mine and my husbands hearts."

When my daughter was like this I allowed her a "mental health day," and let her stay home and do something special with me.

Perhaps you can buy her something that you, your husband, and her wear. Like matching heart pendants or something. I know of a necklace thats made of bone and its a love know, if you want to order that I can get you a discount code. I have worn my love knot for about 5 years. But the purpose of it is if you all wear one, then you are all connected in a way. And tell her "When you miss us just touch the necklace and you will be close to us in a way!"

Thank you all for the advice! Still having issues. The crying is not every day and night now though..it mainly at night. My husband and I will be seeing a counselor to find ways to help her and possibly take her to one as well. I have a cousin who's son has anxiety and their counselor said to send pictures of you to school for the kid to look at when they miss you. I tried that and her teacher even lets her keep them on her desk, but she said when she looks at them they make her miss us even more..Hopefully soon we will be getting in the counceling and find something that helps!