Woman punishes son publicly...

Kudos to this mom. Her 12 year old son called his teacher a bitch and said "I don't give a smurf". Her explanation for why she chose that punishment was pretty great and makes sense. I don't know what I would do in a situation like this (and I hope to God I never have to experience this with my kids), but I would hope I could handle the situation this way.

After you read the article, what do you think?


There a video of the mom speaking on this link:

http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/mom-makes-son-carry-sign-being-disrespectful-public-173700623.html


Lisette Lopez of Oakland Park, Florida, was furious when her 12-year-old son, Erol Faustin, was suspended from school for disobeying and cursing in class. So she designed a punishment that would be as public and as humiliating for him as his behavior had been for his teacher: He had to stand in front of Rickards Middle School every morning and afternoon for the three days he was suspended, holding a sign apologizing for his actions.

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"My kids know not to disrespect people, and he's not a bad kid," Lopez told the Associated Press while her son bit his lip and looked away from the camera. "He plays around in class like most all kids do. But he has to know that when you're in school you're there to learn you're not there to play."

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He's been in trouble before, Lopez told told WSVN News7, and has been acting like the class clown this year; the sign holding is her last-ditch effort to get through to him, she said. His father is not around and has a criminal record, she told the news station, and she didn't want her son to follow in his footsteps. "He has a younger sister and brother who look up to him," she said. "He needs to be a role model."

When his teacher asked him to move his book back, he refused, saying that he "doesn't give a 'f'," and called her the "b" word, Lopez said. Standing with her hand on her preteen's shoulder, Lopez explained her reasoning behind the public punishment. "He did it with the whole class there, and it would get around the whole school," she said. "And I didn't want people coming up to him being like 'Oh, good job' or 'Oh, we all wanted to do that.' So his apology was public, in front of the whole school."

Erol wore a black suit and tie on Tuesday as he held the large handmade sign for his classmates and their parents to see. As students milled around him, there were tears in his eyes; one kid patted him on the shoulder in a kind way as he walked by.

"I disrespected my teacher," the sign read in part. "I am now suspended for 3 days. I would like to apologize not only to that teacher but to all adults." When a TV news reporter asked him if he thought he had done the wrong thing, he simply said, "Yes."

Erol says that he's learned his lesson.

"I learned that I won't call a teacher or any adults or staff out by that name again," he said, sounding contrite. "Because it's disrespectful."

That's a pretty good punishment IMO. But there's going to be that one that's going to cry "abuse!" We shall see.....

I think its a good punishment, it got through to him.

I think it's awesome. I know I would not dome half of what I did if my parents did this.

Quoting Supafly★:" That's a pretty good punishment IMO. But there's going to be that one that's going to cry "abuse!" We shall see....."

There were tons of thumbs down on the Yahoo comment sections when people praised the woman. People were saying he was going to have severe psychological issues from that...  

the punishment fit the crime IMO

he is 12, he is plenty old enough to be able to handle the "humiliation". I congratulate his mother for nipping the disrespect in the bud now. Behavior like that can escalate and possibly get him kicked out of school. As a mother, I'd rather my kid suffer a bit of embarrassment and the punishment be successful in curbing his behavior than to tip toe around it out of fear that he would be humiliated and then allow the behavior to continue and escalate until it's unmanageable.

Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" There were tons of thumbs down on the Yahoo comment sections when people praised the woman. People were saying he was going to have severe psychological issues from that...   "

Yeah "you should never humiliate a child blah blah blah..." Sorry but if my kid is going to be a cursing, disrespecting prick, he's going to face some tough consequences.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" I think its a good punishment, it got through to him."

I think her reasoning was great. She didn't want kids to think he got away with it and say to him "Oh man, I heard you called that teacher a bitch. That's awesome!" in the hallways.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:</b>" There were tons of thumbs down on the Yahoo comment sections when people praised the woman. People were saying he was going to have severe psychological issues from that...   "</blockquote>




Aye! Seems like everything we do will lead to major damage in kids .

Quoting wombie:" the punishment fit the crime IMO he is 12, he is plenty old enough to be able to handle the "humiliation". ... [snip!] ... around it out of fear that he would be humiliated and then allow the behavior to continue and escalate until it's unmanageable."

Exactly. Well put  

Personally I think its a lame punishment.

I would do something like that as well. Humiliation sometimes is the only way to go with some kids. I don't classify this as abuse to the child. He learnt his lesson and won't do it again that is for sure.

How humiliating that poor child is going to be teased for years to come. That's going to hunt him for the rest of his life. I personally believe a letter to the teacher and a speech to the class would have sufficed. Poor kid I think she went to far just to be on tv. Then they wonder why children kill their parents. Smdh...

Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:</b>" There were tons of thumbs down on the ... [snip!] ... issues from that...   "</blockquote> Aye! Seems like everything we do will lead to major damage in kids ."

This is true. I just saw an article someone pinned on pinterest about positions to hold an infant so you don't smurf them up. It's a looooooooong ass article, too. I saw the term "force of gravity" in there a few times.

How anyone is a parent nowadays and not scared out of their minds is beyond me. lol. I wonder what women in the old days would say if that saw the bizarre things we do for our babies and kids now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:</b>" This is true. I just saw an article someone pinned on pinterest about positions to hold an infant so ... [snip!] ... beyond me. lol. I wonder what women in the old days would say if that saw the bizarre things we do for our babies and kids now."</blockquote>

My grandma get mad at me when I tell her certain things shouldn't be done. Like giving evaporated milk, letting them sleep on their tummy, giving infants water and so forth.