Quoting justanothamotha:" So your theory is that you were inherently rotten (born that way) & nothing anyone did was going ... [snip!] ... going to actually elicit in you a more loving & kind attitude? You had to have it punished into you to be a decent person?"
Quoting justanothamotha:" MY child isn't a "perfect angel" all the time. I wouldn't expect any child to be but this goes well beyond ... [snip!] ... your raising & just tell a teacher to F off out of nowhere. There is something that is going on well before that occurs. "
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" That's not true. Plenty of disrespectful little smurfs have parents who teach them to be respectful. ... [snip!] ... who tried to drill that into their kids. But especially around peers kids are going to be more likely to act like douches."
Quoting wombie:" this.....absolutely this! I am a prime example of this. I was an smurf between the ages of 12-15ish. ... [snip!] ... sound like that is the case here. ......and once again, I have typed out a novel I doubt anyone will read this, lol"
Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:" I love the points you make!"
Quoting justanothamotha:" I never said the punishment is damaging. I just don't think it is actually effective at learning why ... [snip!] ... can help to make things better for other people instead of always thinking of themselves. You can take that for what it is."
Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" I think it's crazy when parents are freaked out by parents kissing their newbs/infants/toddlers/kids on the lips. I couldn't imagine snuggling with DD and not giving her a few pecks."
Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" Totally awesome novel and I read every word Same here. I was an smurf after I graduated high ... [snip!] ... were the greatest parents ever. I felt like rebelling and acting like dumb. Not my parents fault... I just sucked. Haha."
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:</b>" I wasn't allowed to have a phone until ... [snip!] ... However, if my child is like me and gets herself involved in after school programs, and sports then yes a phone will be needed."Ummm I did lots of after school activities & sports & things, all with no cell phone. You certainly can't think those activities got invented after all kids got cell phones? And you *can* get phones that only allow certain numbers to be called, so they can be programmed to only call mom, dad, their work numbers, gramma as a back up, etc. They don't have to be completely open to sending & receiving messages from everyone, although that option seems to be seldom selected by parents.