I am interested in a response to this as my guy & I have put thought into the time frame of a perspective marriage…. & he has recently given me a ring as a “place holder” until he can afford the true engagement ring on a later date. However he has not “officially” purposed & will not until the time has come so that he can afford the actual ring.. but without the official title (despite what my coworkers/friends/family say or joke about..) I do not consider myself to be engaged until that time comes. So at what point did you/do you consider someone to be “engaged’’?
More info: He is waiting to pop the question until we have bought the house we are currently saving for & he feels like we are more financaily ready for a wedding. hes all about the details.. not so much a "go by the flow type" lol

Once someone has asked the other person to marry them officially. Alot of the times with a ring for me personally.

Whatever someone else qualifies as engaged is fine by me. Personal preference

I wouldnt consider myself engaged until he has purposed and put a ring on my finger

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" Once someone has asked the other person to marry them officially. Alot of the times with a ring for me personally. Whatever someone else qualifies as engaged is fine by me. Personal preference"

 

When both agree they'd like to get married and want to say they're 'engaged'
I don't think there has to be a ring, but I'm not the most traditional person  

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My grandparents don't even wear their wedding rings and haven't done for years lol. My grandma was a nurse and couldn't wear rings when she worked and now she has bad arthritis and er rings don't fit, my grandad is an engineer and its dangerous working with the machines.

I feel engaged now that I have a ring. He would call me his fiance before hand, though.

When 2 people agree to get married.
I dont think he has to "officially" propose, Im not even sure what an official proposal is...I dont think there HAS to be a ring.
Also I wouldnt say you have to tell every one but I would be pretty skeptical of someone who wanted to keep an engagement secret.

My husband and I talked about finally setting a date. He didnt even really propose to he it was a decision that we both wanted. We didn't have a ring but we told people we were getting married and set a date. I went with him to pick out my set and ordered it. Which the ring was ordered right away and the date was set so I felt we could start telling everyone we were engaged and started calling him my fiancé.

Quoting 1&1 We're Done!:" When 2 people agree to get married. I dont think he has to "officially" propose, Im not even sure what ... [snip!] ... I wouldnt say you have to tell every one but I would be pretty skeptical of someone who wanted to keep an engagement secret."

TRUE! that would send up a few red flags! & idk I want the *down on one knee, classical proposal lol! it just seems humbling & tender to me!

When he proposes with a ring. I'm worth a ring... not just a measly question and voila, engaged. Marriage should be a lot more serious than that.. IMO, at least.

When one person has proposed and you have both agreed that you want to get Married. I don't see what a ring, money other people etc have got to do with it. My DH was 16 when he proposed to me and you can bet he had no money for a ring then or money for a Wedding or any idea when we would actually get Married but we both knew that is what we wanted.... Although we did go get matching ring tattoos the next week lol

When one person proposes marriage to the other and the other accepts their proposal, not just "Eh, we'll get married one day." (otherwise based on some bad ex bf's, I've been engaged multiple times ;) ). The ring is a nice gesture, but not required since not every girl wants one and not every guy can afford one. I personally think the ring is an important part, since it shows a little more commitment/effort from the guy--but I don't think the ring has to be spectacular or anything like that. I hate it when girls say they wouldn't accept a guy who proposed with a ring that was too small, etc.

SO hasn't officially proposed and there isn't a ring, but we've both agreed that we want to get married and have decided it will be this June. I think we're engaged, but everyone I talk to says we're not.

When two people agree to get married. A ring doesn't define the nature of the relationship or intent of the two people, how silly.