re: Talking about NICU

everyone deals with things in diffrent ways. just because you cry doesnt make you crazy and just because someone else doesnt it doesnt make them heartless. everyone is diffrent

My son was in the NICU for 3 months over 3 years ago and I still have trouble sometimes, especially when a trigger brings back the traumatic memories.
Having a child in the NICU is scary and no one should tell you how to feel or when to stop feeling emotional over it.

I volunteer in the NICU my son was born, talk with current NICU families and help organize parent-to-parent events. It has helped me a lot to talk with those who have been through or are going through the experience.

the NICU is awful
having a child hooked up to machines,
having a child needing the help of machines simply to breathe is scary as smurf!
the alarms, the isolettes, the way you have to get a gown and wash up before you even enter.
the way you feel utterly helpless, and clueless, and at the mercy of these complete strangers.

all of it is a real trauma. whatever way you've got of dealing with it, is perfectly valid

Quoting Blessed x2♥:" She was a month early and came out so fast that a nurse didnt have time to come into my room to deliver, ... [snip!] ... touch her or anything.. it was just really awful and scary to see her like that. i just dont know why I cant get over it.. "

sounds like she just aspirated on fluid...happens a lot to babies. MANY moms have it a lot worse. they cant hold their babies for months. 6 hours is nothing...

I never once said I had it terrible, i said it was a scary situation... nor did I say ANYTHING AT ALL about any other mom who have gone through NICU.

Your comment is VERY unnecessary and rude and has NOTHING to do with that I posted at all.

 

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blessed x2♥:</b>" I never once said I had it terrible, i said it was a scary situation... nor did I say ANYTHING AT ALL ... [snip!] ... have gone through NICU. Your comment is VERY unnecessary and rude and has NOTHING to do with that I posted at all.  "</blockquote>

  nobody should feel belittled for feelig a certain way about their nicu baby and their traumatizing birth   whether they're in for 6 hours or 6 mos it still matters and shouldn't be passed aside.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blessed x2♥:</b>" I never once said I had it terrible, i said it was a scary situation... nor did I say ANYTHING AT ALL ... [snip!] ... have gone through NICU. Your comment is VERY unnecessary and rude and has NOTHING to do with that I posted at all.  "</blockquote>


 
ANY amount of time, whether 3 hours or 3 months, is traumatic!
It's not a contest to see who went through more....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blessed x2♥:</b>" I never once said I had it terrible, i said it was a scary situation... nor did I say ANYTHING AT ALL ... [snip!] ... have gone through NICU. Your comment is VERY unnecessary and rude and has NOTHING to do with that I posted at all.  "</blockquote>




Shes a smurf...  
We were at it for a hot minute because she said something to the effect about only poor people/low income families Dont know how to be in tune with thier infants, and thier babies cry and thats where colic comes from   her dr. said so  

Like I said, my son was in for 6 wks, and had 2 surgeries by the time he was 1 week, I was very well prepared for it and was only scared out of my mind 1st time I saw him, my aunt cries just at sight of his pictures, people deal with things different, I went to school for fash design, and after seeing Dean I went to nursing school,
Deal with it however u need to and maybe before u start to *freak out,* remember shes not there any more, shes happy and safe now... I'm here if u ever want to talk, and theres alot of other awesome mommas ^^ that know what we *all* went thru, no matter the length of time, severity of babys problems,  

My daughter spent 7 weeks in the NICU. It was definitely emotional at the time. Leaving the hospital without her was also very traumatizing for me. A Year and a half later I have no problem telling her story though. She is healthy and it's amazing to look back at how strong she was through all of it.

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Blessed x2♥:</b>" I never once said I had it terrible, ... [snip!] ... alot of other awesome mommas ^^ that know what we *all* went thru, no matter the length of time, severity of babys problems,  "

She seems like it .. i hate people like that

Thank you everyone else for sharing own experiences or feelings!

Ive started telling Brooklynn [even though she doesnt have a clue what Im talking about lol] about her birth and everything that happened. even though Im not talking to someone who can talk back just talking about it with SOMEONE has been helping me a lot [as weird as it sounds]. Telling her about what happened and how special she is has been therapeutic to me and her smiles while I talk to her makes it all the more easier to talk about   It still gets to me at times even though we are going on 4 months old but its getting easier like a lot of you said.

Thanks again everyone, ya'll have really helped!