Venting! If it's in the wrong spot deal with it!

Does anyone have irritating in laws that really don't seem to give 2 smurfs about your pregnancy or the baby? Even though this is the first grandchild? My SO's dad asked (fairly rudely might I add) if were getting married (no were not just because of the baby) and if the baby's going under my SO's last name or mine (were putting it under his). He wasn't overly impressed with the answer to getting married but I'm sure he'll get over it at some point. I just don't understand how the ENTIRE family isn't at least CURIOUS about how things are coming along!

Just my MIL in a major bitch. Well at this point I don't give a smurf but once I see her being mean to my baby she will hear everything I have to say to her. The rest of the in laws are pretty supportive and awesome.

I know that is probably insulting but I mean, who cares? As long as BD is involved and loving and excited... you shouldn't care about how anyone else feels or thinks. I think you're just overly sensitive right now because of the baby. You won't give a damn once it's all said and done..

A lot of people don't get excited till the baby is born..

My soon-to-be MIL & family (except his baby sister, who adores me) absolutely abhor me. My SO has a daughter from a previous relationship & they are humiliated by the fact that he is having a child with me when I have "made no effort to be a part of their lives." I have tried. They did nothing but talk bad about me behind my back & say I wasn't good enough for him. I simply decided to NOT put myself through that. They are not proud of my pregnancy. They are ashamed of the fact that I am pregnant.
I told my SO that if they can't accept the pregnancy, they sure as smurf won't have to accept their grandchild because I won't let him/her around them.

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" I know that is probably insulting but I mean, who cares? As long as BD is involved and loving and excited... ... [snip!] ... thinks. I think you're just overly sensitive right now because of the baby. You won't give a damn once it's all said and done.."

I think it's a little more then just overly sensitive. (Oh and no offence taken   ) I see how excited and annoying question-y MY family and friends and even the friends we have here (I moved to lived with him in another province) are and then his family just... Doesn't show a thing? It's weird I think. You could be right though.

Quoting bloopbloop♥™:" Just my MIL in a major bitch. Well at this point I don't give a smurf but once I see her being mean to ... [snip!] ... being mean to my baby she will hear everything I have to say to her. The rest of the in laws are pretty supportive and awesome."

Ugh I wish! I only have my sister in law that's actually excited or anything!

Quoting Robin Lynn:" My soon-to-be MIL & family (except his baby sister, who adores me) absolutely abhor me. My SO has ... [snip!] ... can't accept the pregnancy, they sure as smurf won't have to accept their grandchild because I won't let him/her around them. "

Wow! Good for you! That's awesome you stood up for yourself like that! I think my in laws maybe a little upset about this because we've only been together under a year but we've been friends since high school (5 years now). We planned this and did this on our own and I honestly don't think they liked me from the start and there just taking this to the next level. Ugh!!

Quoting BbyGrlPickles:" Ugh I wish! I only have my sister in law that's actually excited or anything!"

Yeah she has surely pissed me off so much but its whatever. I learned to disconnect but like someone else mentioned maybe they will change after baby is here. I guess its something only time will tell. Just be grateful of the amazing people that support you guys and give you their love.  

Quoting BbyGrlPickles:" Wow! Good for you! That's awesome you stood up for yourself like that! I think my in laws maybe a little ... [snip!] ... did this on our own and I honestly don't think they liked me from the start and there just taking this to the next level. Ugh!!"

Oh yeah. My So & I got together about 2-3 months into his ex's pregnancy. His daughter was born in May of this year. I'm due June of next year so I understand how they could be angry that he & I weren't careful. He & I have been together for 14 months, we love each other & are planning our wedding together. It just so happens that we'll be having this baby before we're husband & wife.
I told him that I understand that it's his family & that he wants them to be a part of this grandchild's life but I have to be a mother here. I don't want my child around hostility. I told him if his mother can't get over all of this, she's not going to be allowed at the hospital either. I want nothing more than to have everyone be okay with this & to have a supportive family around this child but I have to deal with the fact that that probably won't happen. He & I have my family who are incredibly supportive & already plan to be a positive influence in our child's life.
Good luck, mama. I know more than anything how much that situation is draining.

tbh its not what they think about your child, its what your and your SO thinks, dont listen to your "in laws"

Ooh yea. My family in law is psycho. They're all up my his ass about whether or not this baby is his, even though he knows it is. This is their first grandchild and never once have they asked how the baby is doing or anything. Anytime we see them his mother tries to convince him to doubt that this baby is his and begs for a dna test. I haven't said anything yet but the next time she opens her mouth and says anything about my daughter not being Adams i'm going to go off. She's not even born yet so she has nothing to really go off of, she just doesn't want to accept that her son is about to have his own family and that she's gonna be a grandma. Too damn bad.