Quoting BbyGrlPickles:" Wow! Good for you! That's awesome you stood up for yourself like that! I think my in laws maybe a little ... [snip!] ... did this on our own and I honestly don't think they liked me from the start and there just taking this to the next level. Ugh!!"
Oh yeah. My So & I got together about 2-3 months into his ex's pregnancy. His daughter was born in May of this year. I'm due June of next year so I understand how they could be angry that he & I weren't careful. He & I have been together for 14 months, we love each other & are planning our wedding together. It just so happens that we'll be having this baby before we're husband & wife.
I told him that I understand that it's his family & that he wants them to be a part of this grandchild's life but I have to be a mother here. I don't want my child around hostility. I told him if his mother can't get over all of this, she's not going to be allowed at the hospital either. I want nothing more than to have everyone be okay with this & to have a supportive family around this child but I have to deal with the fact that that probably won't happen. He & I have my family who are incredibly supportive & already plan to be a positive influence in our child's life.
Good luck, mama. I know more than anything how much that situation is draining.