Little Depressed

I have two older sisters and they both have three children each. For each of their children I threw them a baby shower. I went out of my way to buy them tons of things for their babies. Sometime spending $500+ just on present for each shower. My sisters aren't the only ones I have thrown showers for. I have thrown them for many of my friends.

And here I am 34 week pregnant and still no one has thrown me a shower nor has anyone bought a single item for my baby. (with the exception of my oldest sister who bought her one outfit). I understand these ladies have children and lives of there own but I never imagined when it was my turn no one would be in line to throw me a shower or to shower my little one with gifts.

My mother went crazy buying stuff for her other grandchildren but she acts like my baby doesn't exist. It is very hurtful. No one, besides her father and me, seem to take an interested in her. I love her more than anything and it really hurts seeing my family treat her like she doesn't exist and that my feelings don't matter. I understand she isn't here yet but at 34 weeks she has a great chance of survival without problems at this stage if she were to be born.

I was just setting in her nursery thinking about all this and thought I'd vent on here.

I'm sorry. I'd probably be hurt, too. Maybe they're planning a surprise shower, or a meet-and-greet for after baby arrives.

It does seem hurtful. Have you talked to your sisters or your mom about how you feel? I had one baby shower that was for my oldest. This one is number 3 and I was lucky to save a medium size tote of infant cloths for her or we would be starting from scratch. It was our decision to have another baby and my husband and I are doing everything for her. But times are hard around my family so I guess I don't feel as bad. But this is your first Im assuming so you should have one. you could do it yourself if it helped or is that besides the point?

Quoting March 2013:" It does seem hurtful. Have you talked to your sisters or your mom about how you feel? I had one baby ... [snip!] ... But this is your first Im assuming so you should have one. you could do it yourself if it helped or is that besides the point?"

It is besides the point. My daughter has just about everything she will need. I tired holding out but I was worried that no one would throw me one so I started buying everything I needed myself. She could still use more diapers and diaper wipes. Also she needs a baby swing and a pack-n-play but I think me and her father are going to buy them next Friday. It just I put a lot of effort and thought into every shower I ever threw and now no one cares enough about me to even try it.

Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" It is besides the point. My daughter has just about everything she will need. I tired holding out but ... [snip!] ... It just I put a lot of effort and thought into every shower I ever threw and now no one cares enough about me to even try it. "

im really sorry you feel that way. its good to know that you and your husband are getting ready for her tho. Try to focus on her and how wonderful she will be when she gets here.  

I didn't mean when she gets here because she is here..just when she is born.

I have the same problem my sisters all have kids I'm being indused on Thursday and no one threw me a baby shower and this is my fourth baby not once has anyone got anything for us out of the four pregnancy I've had. Its sad I just let it go I can't do anything about it so I just give up we are here for our babies and that is all that matters. I also think the problem with my family is I was the first to have a baby and I'm also the only one in the family who has boys. Just think to you can still have a baby shower just do it after the baby is born when your ready for people to come over. And just throw it as a welcome home party and I bet people will bring things for you. I will probably do that with this baby.