Husband is being really distance.

Ok so i know that it's probably just me but, here's the story. My husband and i lost twins on jan 10th 2012, and got pregnant in june? im 25 weeks and 5 days. but anyway, we got married aug 10th 2012. he is the one that works and i stay home and clean and cook for him, when he gets off work he comes home eats and goes to sleep when he wakes up i try to talk to him about the baby, ask if he wants to fell her move and see if he wants to talk to her ( he use to talk to her everyday until he got this new job) i have been getting everything for the baby he hasn't gotten anything! it just pisses me off that he has taken no responsibility for the baby its like he doesnt care anymore.. someone help! it might be that i just need to get out of the house im litterly in the house for days i have no friends where i live and i just wanna go crazy...

Maybe he's still grieving
Or maybe he's stressed out

I think ur over reacting. He works all day. He is prolly just really tired. Just cuz he hasn't gotten anything doesn't mean he doesn't care.

He may still be grieving your loss.

see that's what i was thinking he knows he can talk to me, we go out to where they are buried every month, and he works at a call center and has been doing christmas training so he hasn't been doing anything at work. but i know maybe he is tired but i still would LOVE him to come home and cuddle with me for a little or ask how my day was. I just think that since im home alone all day i just crave the attention that he use to give me

Do you talk to him about other things than the baby? A lot of guys aren't really in to it like a pregnant mother is, not until the baby is actually born. Maybe try laying off the baby talk and talk about eachother, or nothing at all and just cuddle/hang out.

He may also be distancing himself since you guys already experienced one loss, it may not be intentional, just a subconscious way of 'protecting' himself until he gets to actually hold that sweet baby in his arms. I wouldn't say you were wrong, your feelings are your feelings, maybe have a talk w/him on his next day off. Maybe letting your feelings out will encourage him to do the same.

Quoting Lacie McGraw:" see that's what i was thinking he knows he can talk to me, we go out to where they are buried every month, ... [snip!] ... little or ask how my day was. I just think that since im home alone all day i just crave the attention that he use to give me "

Not to be rude, but if you are a stay at home wife how are you getting everything for the baby? Is he not giving you the cash you need for the things you buy? Just curious.

And I would totally trade places with you. Because my man is the opposite. I would like a break from him. Tomorrow he works and I have the day off and am looking forward to some peace and quit. I can't walk out of a room without him wanting freaking kiss. Drives me nuts.

Yes i have when i ask about whats wrong he blows off the question... he gets like this when he doesnt get head or when i tell him no when he asks for head/sex. ( i havent felt good nor have i been in the mood for it)

NO he is not giving me money i am using my saving's and extra money that i have saved up from when i was working

Quoting Lacie McGraw:" NO he is not giving me money i am using my saving's and extra money that i have saved up from when i was working"

The smurf?

Quoting Lacie McGraw:" NO he is not giving me money i am using my saving's and extra money that i have saved up from when i was working"

that sucks. I know almost everything in the nursery I have bought for our daughter. But he did help me pay for some of the larger items such as the crib and car seat. I hope things work out and he comes around soon. Best of luck to you.

I'd have to say maybe he's still grieving and distancing himself from the pregnancy...My husband was like that after we lost our first son at 22w. when i found out i was pregnant he completely ignored it.. he still cried often.. he thought i didn't know because he'd wait til i was napping.. i'd wake up and find him in our sons room holding the things we'd bought together for him... men grieve way differently than we do.. sometimes it takes longer. i know my husband was heartbroken til the day he held our second son.. hell, 3 years later and we STILL cried....It was slightly different for us because it was only one child & sadly since my husband was in the marine corps he wasn't there when our son passed.. so that hurt him more.. he deployed while i was pregnant with our second and seemed very disinterested in him until the came home.. our son was 3 1/2 months old when he met him and he lit up like a christmas tree and was his normal self after that.. just give it time, give him a little understanding that it's hard for a man at times too not knowing how to emotionally deal with something like that... not to mention, he does work. he is probably tired no matter what we think they do at work.. he could be working harder than you think.. who knows. just relax, give it time..

That's what im saying when he gets paid he does pay the bill but he also has 2 extra checks a month that dont go to bills (because his check on the first of the month covers it) but he always wants to get stuff for himself and not the baby when i brought it up if he would get a crib on this check he freaked out and said that he wil give me all his money so i can just go spend it on stupid smurf.. HOW IS A CRIB FOR YOUR CHILD STUPID Smurf?!?!?

Quoting Lacie McGraw:" That's what im saying when he gets paid he does pay the bill but he also has 2 extra checks a month that ... [snip!] ... said that he wil give me all his money so i can just go spend it on stupid smurf.. HOW IS A CRIB FOR YOUR CHILD STUPID Smurf?!?!?"

Errrr... have you talked to him about how he treats you and what he says?