Quoting Ҿcɧơ:" Thanks, thats what I told her too. That she was absolutely wrong. But she gave me some specific story ... [snip!] ... evidence, and call the cops on him and get a police report so I can prove his abuse if and when he does something crazy again. "
The other poster is right. That information is terribly incorrect. I had to go to a homeless shelter with my two girls and DCF never once stepped in or threatened to. Going to a DV shelter would actually have a positive impact on the way any protective service agency would look at you.
I strongly advise filing a criminal complaint against this guy, getting in contact with a domestic violence advocate and getting yourself and your child into a mire protected situation. The first step is always the hardest, but it's the one step that will bring you out of this hellhole. There are so many options available to you once you do those three things and a multitude of programs to help.