Quoting :*:CHRiSTiNe:*::" Its 100% up to the parents. In my town they called all the parents with an automated message saying that ... [snip!] ... did not state why, and that there would be counselors available for the students that did know and were having issues with it."
I am also from CT
This post is originating b/c I decided NOT to tell my 6 yo about Friday.
I kept all media off, spoke to all adults, everyone was in agreement.
Saturday night I get a Code Red Call (as you did) but it stated that they would be observing a moment of silence and offering counselors if needed on Monday.
I then determined that I need to tell her b/c I did not want her to be more scared and confused when they did all of this on Monday. I told her.
She is not doing well with it.
I spoke to her when she got home from school yesterday and NOTHING was mentioned AT ALL.
I am LIVID.