re: worst scenario ever

Quoting TheNuge:" no. worst scenario ever is happening in Newtown, CT."

Not fair to compare the two tho.

ok that is true but in my case this is the worst thing ive ever gone through but thanks for the input

Quoting TheNuge:" no. worst scenario ever is happening in Newtown, CT."

Quoting loving_momma 2009:" because i thought my fiance was the dad til dates didnt add up i dont drink and remember nothing of my ... [snip!] ... my bday night yes this is my fault and i have a right to hurt i admit my mistakes and my faulst but this is still hard for me "

I understand that you are hurt by his actions, but I think he is handling it pretty well considering. Plenty of men I know would have just walked away without a second thought. If you want so badly to keep him, then you know what you have to do.

OP, the first child I can understand how anyone would accept him. They'd be an smurf not to. But having a second child that comes from cheating on your fiance? I can understand him not wanting to be there. Regardless you cheated and he feels like there is no more room for him. It isn't his child when he was excited it could be. You're lucky he didn't walk as soon as you told him. But he doesn't have a reason to stay.

that is true i am greatful but it was a drunk moment and the other man who was a close friend admitted of taking advantage of me in my sleep so thats not cheating especially if it wasnt willing

Quoting BeccaSauraus:" OP, the first child I can understand how anyone would accept him. They'd be an smurf not to. But having ... [snip!] ... when he was excited it could be. You're lucky he didn't walk as soon as you told him. But he doesn't have a reason to stay."

Quoting loving_momma 2009:" that is true i am greatful but it was a drunk moment and the other man who was a close friend admitted of taking advantage of me in my sleep so thats not cheating especially if it wasnt willing "

No that's rape. I would press charges and I would abort. And I do not believe in abortions.

neither do i and yes that is rape hat is why i am so upset about the issue

Quoting BeccaSauraus:" No that's rape. I would press charges and I would abort. And I do not believe in abortions."

Quoting loving_momma 2009:" neither do i and yes that is rape hat is why i am so upset about the issue "

You didn't mention that in your previous posts.
I could not have 2 babies both from rape. I couldn't do it. I'd abort or set up an adoption.

Quoting TheNuge:" no. worst scenario ever is happening in Newtown, CT."

Perspective. Gotta love it.

Quoting loving_momma 2009:" my fiance and i are currently living apart and on my birthday my friends and family threw me a party ... [snip!] ... first child was a rape bay i dont believe in abortion at all and adoption is too hard for me lease help anyway you can thanks"

I don't think ANYONE can really tell you what to do. Don't let anyone persuade you into anything. Take time to think about it. Get some fresh air. Consider everything, and these child's rights and life. Do what's best for you and the baby. PLEASE do not let anyone decide for you. Don't get caught up in these replies that tell you to do things. It's a child's life, after all. Your own baby - you don't want a total stranger deciding anything for you!

Quoting ♥ inês:" I don't think ANYONE can really tell you what to do. Don't let anyone persuade you into anything. Take ... [snip!] ... you to do things. It's a child's life, after all. Your own baby - you don't want a total stranger deciding anything for you!"

!!! I love this!!! You know what is right in your heart, and only you can make the right choice for you and your baby. You have to live with your decision. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong.

If he loves you enough to stay with you if you abort, he loves you enough to get past it and support you having the baby.

Quoting Katie Kepfer:" !!! I love this!!! You know what is right in your heart, and only you can make the right choice for ... [snip!] ... the right choice for you and your baby. You have to live with your decision. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be strong."

thank you  

thoughts and prayers with her, as well.  

Quoting loving_momma 2009:" well my fiance says that my decision will be based on better or for worse and he has no children at all ... [snip!] ... room for his child so im at a loss i cant think straight and im confused im alone and hurt and shocked and among other things "

I'd say the same honestly. I'd abort, if my relationship were important.
Focus on couples counseling, and have a baby with someone I loved vs. someone I smurfed around with while engaged.

Quoting loving_momma 2009:" because i thought my fiance was the dad til dates didnt add up i dont drink and remember nothing of my ... [snip!] ... my bday night yes this is my fault and i have a right to hurt i admit my mistakes and my faulst but this is still hard for me "

People using drinking as a cop out..

Ive drank, ALOT..and I've NEVER been so drunk I've randomly smurfed people.
Can you support a kid alone?
Do you want another kid who you don't know who dad is or a dad who isn't involved? You really need to think about all of it.