friends with benefits

How does this work?? Its been so long for me since I've been single. Idk how not to start falling for a guy. I met this guy who is a player- told me upfront he's with other girls and doesn't want a relationship-just friends with benefits. ...I'm okay with that cuz I got out of a 5 year relationship. I really like him. We already had sex....I wanna see him and hang I out with him cuz we do that too. But I don't wanns fall for him or seem thirsty. ..

I just think keeping the line of communication open is important. If you're both open and honest with what you want, how you're feeling, and what you're looking for-- it will cut down a lot on the drama of a FWB.

My only advice is don't make it a habit to call/text him everyday. And just try not to think about any type of future/dating with him. That might be hard if you do hang out with him while not actively smurfing, lol.

If you're going to have a FWB, they shouldn't be screwing other women. That's just gross and can be dangerous to your health. If you want to see him and you want to hang out with him, you should probably cut out the sexual relationship. Your emotions are already getting involved.

He's already made it clear what he wants but it seems like your already falling for him. Be careful

I was never able to do a FWB I always wanted more of a bf/gf relationship

Quoting Misty Walls:" I was never able to do a FWB I always wanted more of a bf/gf relationship"

I was always the opposite, I didn't want the relationship and the guys always fell for me, lmao

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" If you're going to have a FWB, they shouldn't be screwing other women. That's just gross and can be dangerous ... [snip!] ... you want to hang out with him, you should probably cut out the sexual relationship. Your emotions are already getting involved."</blockquote>




I think the point if fwb is that they can screw whoever they want when they want and aren't tied down to one person. I do agree that it's not a healthy place physically or emotionally to put yourself unless you are willing and ready to deal with the potential consequences (unplanned pregnancy with someone you're not in a relationship with, stds and heartbreak)

Quoting Spencer Pratt:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" If you're going to have a FWB, they shouldn't ... [snip!] ... deal with the potential consequences (unplanned pregnancy with someone you're not in a relationship with, stds and heartbreak)"

Not IMO. If I had a FWB, there would be boundaries. There's no point of having a FWB if you're screwing other people. The point of a FWB is to ONLY be having sex with that one person, no strings attached. They are a smurf buddy.

Quoting snickle_fritz:" How does this work?? Its been so long for me since I've been single. Idk how not to start falling for ... [snip!] ... had sex....I wanna see him and hang I out with him cuz we do that too. But I don't wanns fall for him or seem thirsty. .."

I had this exact experience. I was sleeping with this guy that didn't ever date girls, he was going to school here and wasn't getting into a relationship because he was moving home when he was done. We agreed we would just strictly sleep with each other and if someone else came along, to let each other know and vise versa. We always hung out and it basically became a friendship no feelings attached just sex.

That went on for about 6 months and then I started hanging out with my boyfriend, and when it was getting more serious I told him and we stopped.

Just keep your options open of course, just keep in mind that he doesn't want anything more. That's exactly what I did, and don't hesitate to meet any one else if they come along. Your single!

Quoting Jas ♥:" Not IMO. If I had a FWB, there would be boundaries. There's no point of having a FWB if you're screwing ... [snip!] ... other people. The point of a FWB is to ONLY be having sex with that one person, no strings attached. They are a smurf buddy."

This makes sense, but it sounds like he just wants to smurf any girls he can and SHE wants FWB (it doesn't sound like she's interested in sleeping with lots of guys).

Quoting Jas ♥:" Not IMO. If I had a FWB, there would be boundaries. There's no point of having a FWB if you're screwing ... [snip!] ... other people. The point of a FWB is to ONLY be having sex with that one person, no strings attached. They are a smurf buddy."

Exactly! I never thought id be one to have a "smurf buddy" ...but hey we all have needs.. haha.

Quoting Bosco123:" This makes sense, but it sounds like he just wants to smurf any girls he can and SHE wants FWB (it doesn't sound like she's interested in sleeping with lots of guys)."

If I was her, I wouldn't be okay with being one of his many smurf buddies. He could be screwing these girls sans condom for all she knows.

Quoting Jas ♥:" If I was her, I wouldn't be okay with being one of his many smurf buddies. He could be screwing these girls sans condom for all she knows."

I agree.

Quoting Jas ♥:" Not IMO. If I had a FWB, there would be boundaries. There's no point of having a FWB if you're screwing ... [snip!] ... other people. The point of a FWB is to ONLY be having sex with that one person, no strings attached. They are a smurf buddy."

That doesn't really make sense if you're putting rules/boundaries on the whole thing. No strings attached means....no strings attached lol They can smurf who they want, when they want, and there's nothing you can do about it, and if there's no strings attached, then you shouldn't really care either.