Friends late term loss

I'd like some advice from anyone that has went through this with a friend, or themselves.

My friend just lost her child at 39 weeks. I do not know anything else besides that. She sent me a text letting me know...and she wanted to call but was too upset.

What do I do? What does she need? I know a million people will be bringing food, calling, texting, sending flowers etc, And I live 3 hours away and we are going out of town Thursday as well...

I was thinking about sending her a text in a few days...Let her know I'm thinking about her. I just don't know what to say or do you know?

ETA: I would consider us close friends. But for he past 5 months they have lived 3-4 hours away and we don't talk as often (but at least a few times a month)

Just let her know you are thinking about her. Let her know if she needs to talk you are here...but she doesn't have to until she is ready too. It helps just knowing people are there to talk!

When my friend went through this we spent hours on the phone together. I let her tell me anything she felt like she needed to saw while I just sat and listened. I let her know how sorry I was, how smurffy the whole situation was and that nothing will ever explain why this happened.

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Just give her a shoulder to cry on, a hug..no words will make her feel better but knowing there is someone there for her might help some.. so sorry for her loss goodluck

Probably just let her know you're there for her if she needs anything, if she needs to talk.
I've also heard people say that there are certain things you SHOULDN'T say..like "everything happens for a reason."
"He/she is in a better place." (What better place is there for a baby than with their mother?)
There were some others but I can't remember.
I'm so sorry for your friend's loss  

You could get her something special like a necklace or a bracelet with the babies name engraved. I know someone that did that for their friend recently.

Quoting Serial Mom ✄:" Probably just let her know you're there for her if she needs anything, if she needs to talk. I've also ... [snip!] ... there for a baby than with their mother?) There were some others but I can't remember. I'm so sorry for your friend's loss  "

The do's and don't!
http://www.cradlesandgraves.com/2009/07/when-someone-you-know-loses-baby.html

Thanks ladies.

In a few days i'll probably send her a text and let her know i'm thinking of her and le t her go from there with whatever it is that she needs.

Quoting *...*...*...*:" Thanks ladies. In a few days i'll probably send her a text and let her know i'm thinking of her and le t her go from there with whatever it is that she needs."

Go ahead and text her now...let her know you are giving her some time with the family but you will definitely call her this week if she doesn't call you first...that way she knows you aren't avoiding her in that time period.

It might help her to know if she needs to get away for a bit just to take sometime for herself maybe she could come stay with you? You sound like a great friend, im so sorry for her loss x

B4 u leave town for the holiday, find out if they r holding a memorial service for the baby so u can send a note or flowers.
My good friend that had a late loss really appreciated when we purchased a ''star'' in her babys name. We had the certificate framed w/a sonogram picture.
Some people like the idea of planting a tree or bush as a memorial & the sentimental jewlery is nice also.

My highschool best friend lost her baby in August, she only lived a week :
It was really hard because Im pregnant myself, so I had to deal with my own fears, as well as trying not to show on facebook how excited I was... I didnt want to make her feel worse I guess..
Just be there for her. let her know isf she needs to talk, scream, cry, vent whatever, you are there to listen. alot of people will be trying to give her words that make it make sense, or to make her feel better, but Im sure none of it really helps..let her talk to you if she wants, and just listen.